What if the causation is the other way around from how you think it is?

Here’s Nutomic still being transphobic on lemmy.ml 9 days ago, with bonus commentary from people who were there at the time:

https://lemmy.ml/post/29579005/18413354

Who are you, then?
I am Arthur, king of the Britons
Who are they?
We’re all Britons. And I am your king.
Well I didn’t vote for you!

I had the opposite experience. When I was a teenager, I tolerated being gendered by society. After I grew up, I started learning about trans issues, and asserted my own identity. I put up with other people’s gendered bullshit for 18 years, I don’t have to tolerate it anymore.

Federation is about what content you want to host on your server.

If you made a Lemmy server, say sidekick.lemmy, you’d have to make decisions about which sources of content to federate with. For example, if the Lemmy instance I just made up for this hypothetical called loli.network were posting child porn, then you’d have to make a decision whether to have child porn on your instance, manually remove all of it, or just defederate loli.network. Now imagine there’s an instance called aryan.nation. Do you want swastikas and heil hitlers to be visible on your frontpage?

Ada promised her users that transphobia wouldn’t be visible from lemmy.blahaj.zone. That’s the issue.

It was something about telling her to suck a dick.

they always make assumptions, not even wondering if what they’re saying might be false

Ha.

Yeah, I feel the same way. Blahaj is usually pretty good on trans issues within the community. I’d probably have made my account there on that basis alone if it wasn’t for… Well, I wouldn’t feel safe expressing opinions like those in this post on there. I like to be political, and Blahaj isn’t the space for that unless you fall into a very narrow range of views. I don’t see any regular users who overtly disagree with Ada on moderation issues. I like a space where I can disagree with the admins, because nobody’s a perfect representative. On Blahaj there’s a kind of worship that I’m uncomfortable with. I wouldn’t feel safe getting into friction there. It seems like there aren’t any little disagreements that people move past. Everything’s a world shattering issue.

Let’s try having this thread without sexual harassment, please.

Their definition of “transphobia” includes “I feel like women with super high testosterone levels competing in women’s sports does get into kind of a legitimate gray area,” “I don’t think dragon is a gender and this person is clearly a malicious troll,” and “dude.”

Those are all quotes that can be used to hurt a trans person in the wrong context and have been used to hurt trans people on that server.

A trans woman has never won a gold medal in the Olympics, gender is inherently subjective and constructed, and people don’t like being called some words. Those are all very unambiguous facts. When you start denying basic facts in pursuit of an agenda, people have a right to stop listening to you. You should say sorry if you want them to listen to you again.

I forgot which one it was

Yeah, Marxist-Leninists. You’re in between anarchists and capitalists.

The admin is Australian…

This meme is my views, using Marxist-Leninist definitions. Of course it’s nonsense, ML newspeak is designed to make anarchism incomprehensible.

I think I can remember Ada saying in the past that her intention with blahaj.zone is to create a safe space for trans people. Not to support trans people outside that space. And I think that’s wrong. Trans inclusivity needs to be explicitly political. There is no safety for trans people in a community disconnected from the global trans struggle.

For some reason I’ve always gotten a very white vibe from blahaj.zone. I can’t explain it, but I just don’t feel that nonwhite people are exactly as welcome there. I’ve felt that way in a lot of trans spaces in the past that were very centered on a white view of transness. The racism is never overt, there’s just a vibe hanging over those kinds of spaces. I don’t have the language to say how I feel that vibe is there, but a lot of people have written about it

I think it would be better for Lemmy’s development if everyone defederated lemmy.ml. If Dessalines weren’t so busy banning users on other instances for pointing out the Uyghur genocide, he’d have a lot more time to write code.

I think this is an inconsistent move from the Blahaj team. They defederated feddit over one transphobic user who the admins wouldn’t deal with. And I agree with that decision. They should make the same decision here. If lemmy.ml won’t ban Nutomic, then it’s clear they aren’t interested in creating a safe environment for trans people.

Regardless of any funding question, I think every instance should be questioning federation with .ml over their acceptance of Nutomic. And that goes double for any instance committed to inclusivity, because they have a responsibility to their users to uphold the values those users expect.