I immediately get uncomfortable and defensive and try to explain / find excuses for why I did this thing.

Stop doing that. When you notice you are doing it, stop. Say “I’m sorry,” and try to come up with solutions instead of excuses.

Like if you forgot to empty the dishwasher, create an alarm or recurring calendar event so you don’t forget again. Don’t just say you forgot and you couldn’t help it.

This is related to ADHD, sure, but it’s not because of ADHD. It’s because you’re making the choice to excuse yourself instead of actually listening to your partner’s concerns and trying to change your behaviour.

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