I have used many methods in my life, couldn’t get enough of finding and trying more and more. And some worked, even pre-diagnosis.

But here is a new one that I just found recently after watching Dr. K. here, and reading about Rubicon model in more detail.

When to use

  • Already got a todo-list
  • hard time getting started

General idea

Create internal motivation, rather than the pain of being driven by external motivation, such as deadlines or hunger.

How to do it

  • Take the todo-list
  • Look at each of the items for 30 seconds and run a “simulation” in your mind: What would it be like to start that now, what would be the effort/pain, and the short-term gain. Short-term gain is not when it is all done, but a few steps in. E. g. what it feels like when I just put the first piece of laundry into the machine. I even write notes about the “simulation”.
  • Then pick one, IF you really feel like it. Otherwise, back to your shows & Lemmy - have fun!

Example

Initial list:

  • shopping
  • laundry
  • cleaning
  • online form

List after “simulation” phase:

  • shopping
    • get up from comfy chair
    • away from tea & cookies
    • shoes, bag
    • outside in the rain
    • at least would be on the way
    • probably a no
  • laundry
    • get up
    • some spread around, collect
    • might just not do that one
    • pretty low effort,
    • feeling ok about it
  • cleaning
    • do I even have the cleaner
    • probably better after shopping
    • nah, let’s not
  • online form
    • at least not getting up
    • one hell of an annoyance though
    • show could keep playing
    • might take 10 minutes
    • could do

Based on that, I’d pick the online form task and go.

It’s weird, it makes no sense, but it works! This weekend, I got 6 out of the 10 things done I was supposed to do (better than 0, right?), but getting started required no discipline or pain. I just wanted to after doing the “simulations”. Other semi-successful weekends, I had to force myself to do at least the ones that create the most pain when not done, and it hurt.

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Just by reading this, I really like the concept. Need to try it out and see if it sticks. Thank you!

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