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i cant wrap my head around it
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I suspect not as constantly exhausting. That’s the thing that I don’t think we realize about neurotypicals and that they don’t realize about us. Just how much work it is running our fucking brains in such a “chaotic” manner.
Saw this post on the autism community and made me wonder from an ADHD perspective, what would it be?
My psychiatrist keeps asking me what I think being normal is whenever I wonder what that is like, says there is no such thing, I just want to know what I’m striving for you know.
Quiet. Easy. No “normal” or constant pain.
Fuckers…
I suppose being on the proper medication would give you a small glimpse of what being neurotypical is like.
Yeah, no, not necessarily.
There are definitely people who find great benefit in medication. I am one of them. But for me, my methods of thinking don’t change, I just don’t hate myself because of them.
The flip suggestion that “the right medication” would “cure” neurodivergency is a major part of the problem that ND people experience.
I imagine they can implement the incredibly unhelpful advice I’ve received so many times.
“Just don’t think about it.” Whatever “it” is at the moment.
Neurotypical people seem to have the ability to just stop thinking about stuff when they want and let their brain rest.
I usually associate that more with anxiety, which I don’t have, because I can sometimes short circuit the bad thought spirals by switching to the latest hyperfocus. Like playing through doom levels in my mind’s eye.
I play music to do this. As in, I perform it on my guitar, sometimes while singing. Performing music uses your entire brain, so if you’re doing it right there’s almost no room for anything else while you do it. Feels like a cheat code for my brain.
It’s not a cheat code, you’re enriching yourself! Could very well be exactly what your anxiety needs!
Yeah using your “entire brain” is definitely the key. If you can still have a little thread going in the back of your head, then you need to up the intensity.
Exercising while listening to a video game podcast is a fav of mine.
Obviously these aren’t solutions or cures, but it’s a cope that can give you a break.
For me it’s not anxiety (although I have certainly dealt with that). My brain is just always on as long as I’m awake. Shifting from topic to topic. And if something is on my mind, even if it’s not bad or anxiety inducing, it just doesn’t go away until my subconscious decides to move on or I find some way to distract myself.
The only thing that stops this is weed. I gives me some peace and quiet inside my head. It’s p. sweet.
I feel this big time. I go to sleep with an audiobook on, so I have something to focus on. Otherwise, it takes me forever to sleep, because my brain keeps distracting me
You nailed it.
Having a thought you don’t want to think about and being able to stop thinking about it sums it up pretty well.
This is the thing that getting a prescription to Buproprin has helped me with the most. Seems like it would be small but it’s life-changing.
Yeah being able to control your thinking is a boon that NTs really take for granted.
Kind of a big topic so I’m not sure where to focus.
A friend of mine has ADHD and we were talking about it. Specifically about why she always has dishes in her sink. She said what happens is she goes to do the dishes. She’ll wash one. Realize it’s the dish she had popcorn in, and she needs to clean the popcorn machine. She puts down the dish, and goes over to the popcorn machine. She goes to unplug it, and realizes the power strip it’s plugged into is kind of shitty. She’s looking up new power strips online, and no dishes are washed.
Contrary, I do my dishes. I wash one. I realize it’s the one I had popcorn in. I note I should clean that, too, later. I wash the next dish. I wash the next dish. I continue until the dishes are clean. I’m thinking about stuff but I’m still on task.
I don’t know if her experience is representative.
I think your friend had probably learned that if she just notes to clean it later, she will forget and it’ll never happen. I feel like there’s a sense of urgency you learn to develop, that the longer you wait between thinking of a task and completing the task, the more likely it is that the task will simply never get done, so you wind up jumping from task to task as you think of them.
And you seldom realize what you’re doing is wrong. You’re working on things, never finishing anything.
I hear this exact tendency is why autDHD people are good with homesteading type stuff, or just general outdoor maintenance (not like mechanical stuff but like gardening and stuff)
There’s simply so much to do, and it never really has a completion state, that if you lose focus midway through a task and start another, your ultimate goals are still being furthered.
I’ve definitely found that I do better when I can keep 100 different things balanced against each other. It gives me somewhere to go when I hit a wall. It can obviously get overwhelming when something goes wrong though
I quit my job (public sector) and I tend for sheep, ducks and plants at home.
It’s mostly OK, but I still forget important stuff like buying feed and such…
There’s a good Malcolm in the middle opening where Hal does this.
That is my favorite clip to reference to tell neurotypucals about how my mind works.
Thank goodness meds can help tame it somewhat!
Imagine being called a “normie” and liking it.
Sometimes I wonder if my “advanced” meditation skills from a decade of training is just what neurotypicals always experience when they meditate, even with just like 10 times of “practice”.
That’s interesting take on this. I never thought about meditation in this context. If I am able to meditate anytime it ends up being a list making session in my head
What I do then is to observe myself making the list, or to observe the thoughts involved in making the list as they swim past me.
This could lead to an infinite chain, where I then observe myself observing and so on. But with practice and methods beyond normal thought and expression, that can fade into nothingness.