My psychologist explained that it is hard to feel happy, satisfied, or fullfilled if you’re exhausted. Happiness required energy.
Students who have just finished a long exam are a great example. They’ve just spent hours focusing as hard as they can, and they’re all exhausted. Not many would describe themselves as happy immediately after.
Hyper focusing can use a lot of energy even though you’re not aware of it. When you finally stop, you become aware of just how little energy you have left.
My psychologist recommended mindfulness. Recognise when you’re exhausted, be aware of the causes (lack of rest, food, water…), and accept that it will take time for you to start feeling better again.
Understanding what’s happening can make the symptoms more bearable.
I’ve found that some people don’t respond if you ask for confirmation “will that be finished by tomorrow?”. Asking in the negative allows for you to assume everything is fine unless they respond “the due date is tomorrow, please let me know if you need help to finish that on time”.
Perhaps it’s less polite, but if you’re dealing with people who rarely reply, it puts the burden on them and doesn’t leave you waiting for their reply.
What I have been told by a psychiatrist (and don’t completely agree with) is that unless you’re trying to get medication to treat symptoms, it doesn’t matter which one you have / get diagnosed with. The non-medication treatments are the same for both.
I’m sorry I don’t have a more helpful answer. Sometimes things are more connected than we’d like, and we can’t always separate them.
I’ve recently started taking medication to reduce the frequency of my migraines. I’m still not sure if it’s done anything for the migraines, but it’s had the side effect of making my ADHD symptoms more manageable. I really wasn’t expecting that.
Not all ideas are good, but a good idea can come from anywhere.