A fellow NT (as in undiagnosed, but have some ND traits) here with a very similar mindset. I love thinking about why I do what I do, I love having a reason to the way I do stuff and I love having an informed decision process. But I find that thinking about stuff equal caring about them, at least caring about them more than necessary. And don’t you wish to not care as much all the time?

I’ll put aside things like how to raise the kids or work decisions (even if I think about them more than the average person). I don’t like to care so much about how the dishwasher is loaded, or the optimal placement of cups in the cupboard. At least not always and leaving things alone is also a mental decision which requires some effort.

To be clear, I’d rather be the way I am. Just wandering how other people handle it.