You really have to both want children, it cannot just be to make the other happy. Having a kid is life changing. My wife and I both wanted a kid and it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It definitely does not strengthen or fix relationships, any problems get amplified and many more new ones are added due to the extra responsibility placed upon both of you.

I wouldn’t ever want to go back because I wanted a child and she’s amazing. It has taken everything I had though. If I hadn’t wanted kids and just did it for my wife then it would have been unbearable.