I struggle with these feelings too. I’m always on the lookout for someone expressing distress and I tend to attend to their needs at the expense of my own work. It is important for me to recognize when someone actually wants assistance or if I’m just “mansplaining,” which would be annoying and demeaning.

Sometimes, if I don’t understand the problem myself, I find it very interesting to learn how to solve it, and the experience is usually mutually beneficial.

It seems we’ve been taught strict expectations about “functioning.” When a machine doesn’t get the resources it needs to do its function, it does not function, and it is not expected to function, if the mechanics are understood. We know a lot about what people need (still more to discover) but we’re expected to “function” without having our needs met.

 Don't let your internal persona of a hard worker allow you to compromise your needs, or your health. When the shit inevitably hits the fan, it is natural to blame yourself in order to improve on the the situation in the future. However, most catastrophes that happen near your will be completely out of your control.
 I still blame myself, I worked at a "walk-in" ambulatory clinic and there was a lady about the age of my mother, who sought our facility for help. She should have gone to the hospital. She had a cardiac event and died as she stumbled through the front door. I did everything I could have done, it wasn't enough.
 My best has never been enough for any major corporation, but I can rely on my self to protect my self. To the corporation, I will always be expendable.
 I love your courage but we must maintain the vessel that houses this courage.

Watching/playing Steins;Gate?