I’m sure lots of ADHDers know what I mean. Situations where you’re not meaning ill intent, but the way that a situation turns out makes it seem like you’re the bad guy/girl.
How do you handle the situation without seeming like a victim or that you’re making excuses for yourself? Do you explain the situation or just accept it and hope that enough time will reveal your true character?
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I’ve found that the best way is to explain myself like I’m 5. If somebody gives me a weird look after I give a dead pan joke, I’ll stop what I’m saying and go “oh, sorry, I’m a very dead pan person and I was trying to make a joke, I guess it didn’t come off that way, my mistake!”
Sure, at first it sounds weird or unnatural but I find that this has worked out better for me rather than staying quiet and blaming them for not appreciating my sense of humor.
This kills the joke
I’d rather kill a joke rather than be disrespectful. The sooner you learn this, the happier your life will be and more people will enjoy having you around.
You can’t kill what’s already dead from the get-go