If you haven’t heard this cliche while discussing your neurodivergency with someone, then I envy your luck. Yesterday I fucked up, I feel shitty, but also I am pissed.
Our brains are impulsive af and tend to forget the most important information. We mess up, our RSD (and empathy) kicks in, we feel terrible, we vow to be more careful, but guess what? Thats fucking exhausting.
As a result, we start overthinking our every waking moment, stressing over every little thing. Because, we are trying to be aware of the things we cannot perceive.
At some point, hopefully we realize that we cannot live like that, and we start to arbitrarily ignore our compulsion to overthink. Most often that works out great because most often the threat is not real, but sometimes we make the wrong call.
The times we overthink are still more than the times we do not, and we still mess up. Let us have our fucking peace.
A casual community for people with ADHD
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Acceptance, Openness, Understanding, Equality, Reciprocity.
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ADHD is a reason not an excuse.
People mistaking reason for excuses is a deliberate act to dismiss our suffering. Deliberate.
Not for this specific case but I’ve often said “It’s an explanation, not an excuse”
It can be our greatest weakness if we are not aware of it acting on us. Amd like all weakness it can become our strength when we work with it.
I am stealing that phrase, thanks 🙏