When I challenge something the other person said then they get upset and we start arguing. But then they change their position to agree with me. And claim to have held the same position as I do from the start.
So now I am the asshole for arguing when we agree on everything!!
Everybody has ADHD and I don’t think it’s on purpose. I just won the argument very thoroughly and this is what it looks like. I feel like I have to get a written record of what the other person is saying before I respond so they don’t accuse me of starting an argument over literally nothing.
(And I have 3rd party witness who confirms my view of the situation is not skewed.)
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I know. but by that time everybody already feels bad and it’s my fault because I raised the initial disagreement which now never existed in the first place. So I just stirred up the whole situation out of nothing apparently.
Since the actual issue is resolved, but everything is still escalated, then we just transition to arguing about who said what. Which is tiresome and pointless. And I am accused of lying when I am not. I don’t like that and it’s very difficult for me to deescalate.
I understand completely. I’m the same way. Just gotta let that shit go. It’s only as important as you want it to be.