A casual community for people with ADHD
Values:
Acceptance, Openness, Understanding, Equality, Reciprocity.
Rules:
- No abusive, derogatory, or offensive post/comments.
- No porn, gore, spam, or advertisements allowed.
- Do not request for donations.
- Do not link to other social media or paywalled content.
- Do not gatekeep or diagnose.
- Mark NSFW content accordingly.
- No racism, homophobia, sexism, ableism, or ageism.
- Respectful venting, including dealing with oppressive neurotypical culture, is okay.
- Discussing other neurological problems like autism, anxiety, ptsd, and brain injury are allowed.
- Discussions regarding medication are allowed as long as you are describing your own situation and not telling others what to do (only qualified medical practitioners can prescribe medication).
Encouraged:
- Funny memes.
- Welcoming and accepting attitudes.
- Questions on confusing situations.
- Seeking and sharing support.
- Engagement in our values.
Relevant Lemmy communities:
Autism
ADHD Memes
Bipolar Disorder
Therapy
Mental Health
Neurodivergent Life Hacks
lemmy.world/c/adhd will happily promote other ND communities as long as said communities demonstrate that they share our values.
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Read something and not registering what it said. Only realizing it after a half page or more. Then going back, reading it again, only to still not have a clue what it says. Then trying to read it aloud, because surely that will keep my mind on task enough to register it. But no. My mind decided that some tangent was way more entertaining.
I usually just give up at that point. I can’t wrangle my mind back and have it be interested at that moment.
forgetting what I was talking about mid-sentence
asking someone what they just asked me to do 30 seconds ago because I didn’t write it down fast enough
doing requests immediately even if they’re not urgent because otherwise I’ll forget
procrastinating showering long enough that my hair is visibly dirty 😞
Wife has started to expect oversharing, she corrects me when it’s just us two, and then I am not sharing enough. When going into social situations, she reminds me of thinking about what is okay to share before I share.
I need to fidget when I have to sit and listen to things. It can seam like I don’t care about the topic, but if I am using all my focus on not fidgeting I sometimes can’t focus on what the other person is saying.
Over sharing and making random noises (stimming maybe?). If someone is telling me something I’ll just repeat a random word from their sentence back to them 😂. Or I’ll just make random noises like dum dum dum for no reason.
People also don’t notice stuff that I do. Like we watching football and I’ll be like huh what does that logo represent on the socks. Everybody else how did you even notice that? Me well I don’t really like football so I’m keeping it fun by reading everything I can see.
I doodle incessantly. Like whole pages that are 20% notes, 80% doodles. I had a teacher in middle school who got mad because it seemed like I was constantly distracted (true) and had me stop, but then discovered it was 10x worse if I was not doing something with my hands. Meanwhile my most recent boss looked over at my pad during our first in-person meeting and said, “ah, so you have ADHD too?”
That’s so wholesome. I’ve just told everyone I’ve ever worked for “I have to write and doodle to process information”, and after a few well timed comments they accepted it. I’ve been late because I had to grab a notepad, I’ve been questioned why I was taking notes when they were already writing down the tasks for everyone… Eventually they just all accepted I doodle and take incomprehensible notes during meetings
If I had a boss who just recognized why I do all that, I’d instantly feel more loyal to them. I mean, assuming they’re a good boss otherwise
Getting lost while talking to someone because my mind left the chat.
Walking back and forth to do something and forgetting what I was going to do and then switching to a new task only to find out I had to do the first thing before I could do the second thing and then maybe repeating that.
Why is there X item, food or otherwise, in the freezer when it should be in the fridge or in a completely different room? How I learned to defrost potatoes.
Looking at phone while watching a movie because I can’t remember the name of the movie that same actor was in 10 years ago. Surprise, we are watching that same movie.
Where are the groceries? Damn it, these tacos made me forget to take them out of the car. I presently want tacos.
I have no idea how long I have been preheating the oven, at least this time there wasn’t food in it. pRoGrEsS.
Complete and utter inability to start anything outside of a last minute panic.
Being mentally paralyzed and unable to execute on anything other than doom scrolling for 4 years.
Mid-sentence brain farts, trying to finish your sentences, extreme procrastination, projects started but not done, a thousand hobbies.
That’s just the easy to see ones.