Final Edit: I have decided to take a break from here for undecided time. I might
come back when sure of myself. Limited activity at main instance. Edit: I am
replying, so please refer to them to get an idea of my worldview. Context:
https://lemmygrad.ml/post/650259 [https://lemmygrad.ml/post/650259] and these
removed comments of mine, before Forte temp banned me ::: spoiler a screenshot
of my comments
[https://lemmygrad.ml/pictrs/image/9a4da869-76b6-40a3-8a72-72178b814059.jpeg]
::: Before I start off, I want to tell that it is true that I am a cis het male
human that holds monogamist views with the mildest of traditional takes. It is
also true that despite never having had a real mother or a girlfriend in my
life, I never became an incel. My mindset at the core is unapologetically
survivalist, independent and masculine. I have also been chivalrous with women,
and have been inclusive of the non binary communities. Some people will try to
portray this as me never getting female love in life and all kinds of assumption
based crap, which I can counter with years of selfless privacy community work. I
want to know what is so misogynistic about: * a woman having multiple boyfriends
and being a social player, which is very common today in the dating scene *
traditional views like monogamy instead of promiscuity are better * social code
being different for men and women * women often dating for free food * Western
feminism not being a true representation of feminism, and how much it currently
harms mainly men, and creating polarisation between both sexes * psychology of
dominance and submission in relationships factoring into the stability of any
long term relationships, including marriage Is it not deceitful to deny these
patterns exist, and to just call someone misogynistic and shut down the
conversation? Or have I misunderstood what Lemmygrad means for these kinds of
conversations? When did this place become so lib, that people were straight up
told to “change your ways before you end up ruining a poor girl’s life”, or how
“using ‘male’ and ‘female’ to refer to men and women as if they’re animals” is a
terminology that radical feminists would otherwise get excused for? What are
these assumed ideas I have that are so batshit crazy, compared to the kinds of
values that hardcore masculinity gurus, Tate fans, incels/femcels hold? And what
is the defined threshold expected for this place to accommodate people? I hope I
do not see a “404:site_ban” before I get to engage and get answers on this, and
have a decent conversation. I am not threatening. I merely want a dialogue.
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Removed Comment > I’ve always considered myself an open book but I shared deeply personal things with this person. The connection was instant and nigh tangible. Here is your reason. She saw you were needy, and women these days do not like needy males. Women like mysteriousness and a lot of interrogation games. I want to add that it can also be her having multiple boys, and you were one of them simply allotted one evening. I might get hate for this, but some of the “conservatives” have good advice that you can absorb to adjust your masculinity for social settings. The dating game is not very innocent and casual these days, which is why I stay away from it until it pans out just enough. by @[email protected]
reason: misogyny
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Banned @[email protected]
reason: weird mysoginistic rants. Please take this time to educate yourself
expires: 2d ago
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Removed Comment The problem is you simply cannot know this type of freeloading. Male has to trust the female as per social unspoken code, and give her leverage unless the female makes mistakes during chats/calls and the male manages to pick up on those red flags. You have to learn the social game really deep to be able to adjust/filter wheat from the chaff, which most people neither know, nor have interest. (Everybody now has enough time for this research considering how privileged lives we live as a society.) OP is not needy, but the female might see him as one. The social code is different, and even wildly so depending on different males/females. by @[email protected]
reason: weird mysoginistic rant
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Removed Comment Interesting dynamics you got there. The reason I mentioned gender roles at home and outdoors is precisely because I know testimonies like yours exist, besides the simpler trad dom-sub indoors/outdoors flipping as well. Everything is not measured using one stick, as they say. I have not been very competent socially (INTJ-A and computer nerd) but improved on it by throwing myself into situations during my college days, and by filtering through bad advice. Never turned into an incel but still have a low tolerance for social BS. I am a monogamist trad. Our society is currently incredibly turbulent because of many reasons. Toxic Western feminism is just one. There is a walling off from both big genders as far as discussion goes, and a lot of reality/facts denial. Edit: there we go, I used the F word and instant downvote hammering... by @[email protected]
reason: weird mysoginistic rant
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Removed Comment Dominating women do not make good wives, traditionally speaking. Reversal of gender roles is very polarising and has undocumented effects in the long term. Two dominating entities cannot exist in a relationship, so one has to submit at home (does not matter outdoors). And socially speaking, women usually cannot duke it out the way men can rationally outdoors (job/physically protecting). I could probably get hate for my traditional views on these matters, but I prefer being a realist. Reality in such cases can be tweaked at most, but not changed. by @[email protected]
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