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So this guy is 25, and his dad is 75. Hm.
Hasn’t talked to his dad in a decade. Dad did stalk him out on Instagram to cyber bully him about 4 years ago, though. Hmm.
Mom’s age isn’t listed here, but she’s 63. 12 years younger. Honestly was expecting a larger age gap. Same last name as Sophie. Hmmm.
The father: Despite my past history of both alleged and documented abuse, restraining orders, estranged family, and seemingly multiple people in my orbit that have expressed a hatred for living, I want you all to know I consider myself to be a loving father and a good person.
Keep things actionable.
- Things you need go where they are useful or where their presence is a reminder not to forget them.
- When relaying things, it doesn’t need a story if the story isn’t actionable.
- When planning things, plan out the actions, and leave as much of the rest to the experience as you can, lest you get overwhelmed, frozen, and wind up with no plans.
Me: Hyperactive, lacks object permanence, forgetful.
My partner: Inattentive, anxious, distractable.
For us it’s mostly been smart home stuff. Our doors have keypads, and they lock automatically if we forget to lock them. Smart speakers take notes and set reminders the moment I want to take a note. I used to have a “Magic Mirror“ that showed my calendar. From plants to lizards, we got lights on timers.
The other part is just planning.
We organize things by location and use, and work with each other. If she’s on a task, I have to let her think it out, or else she forgets stuff. If I’ve left something out and she doesn’t know if I’m done with it, she won’t put it away - lest I forget I was even working on something. We have a few free spaces in the house where we can ‘dump’ stuff - confined areas that visible though they don’t get lost/must be tended sometimes, so we can ADHD, without making out of control messes. We are intentional about where things live - if something gets put up and one of us can’t find it, we wind up with multiples of that item.
Yeah, certainly. Age gaps are one of the things I keep an eye out for, so when an article doesn’t mention one partner’s age, I mentally flag it.
Included it in my comment because the linked article didn’t reference it, and if I pick out that sort of thing, surely someone else would, too. Maybe I saved someone a search?
The weirder part was that Sophie - who the article doesn’t provide a last name for - has the same last name as his mother. Lumped ‘em together because I didn’t have a good fit for a ‘third option’ in the flow of the comment.
Because - you know - if I’m going to speculate wildly about strangers on the internet, I’ve got to do it with a bit of panache, and that means I gotta follow the rule of three’s.