Both. Currently she wants help deciding how long to stay in which places, and wants help picking and booking hotels. So she’s trying to wait until I’m ready to plan, but I’m basically never ready to plan until it’s right before the trip and I need to rush to make up for lost time.
I have ADHD and my partner does not. When we were planning our wedding it was really difficult because she would do most of the planning (because I wasn't doing it and someone had to and she loves planning), but when we needed to plan anything together it was like pulling teeth for me. I wanted to help out but it was always so difficult to get myself to actually do anything.
The same thing happens with vacation planning. Even planning a trip to somewhere I want to go can feel about as fun as doing taxes. We're currently trying to plan a trip overseas that's just in a few months, and my partner really wants to book hotels (I totally agree) but any amount of planning feels like I'm being punished, and I don't know why. I don't have any fun and my mood tanks and I just get quiet and a little irritable.
Anyone else experience this and have any suggestions? I hate leaving all of the planning to my partner, but planning on my schedule has lead to us missing things in the past.
Random thoughts, feel free to ignore: I wonder if it's partly because it's not urgent (as in what we could plan today could just as easily be planned tomorrow) vs importance thing? If we planned on "my schedule" we'd be doing things way too close to the actual date. If we set a date to vacation plan, when it comes I just treat it like a todo list item I just need to finish up so I can get back to whatever I want to do instead.
Thanks, I’ll try some of those things out and see if a second scrub says the same.
That being said I have pretty good backups
Out of curiosity, what do you do for backups? The initial cost of 3x12TB drives was enough to make me not want to spend a bunch more money on backup stuff at the time, but now that I’m seeing errors I’m willing to spend a bit of money again and should look into my options.
My weekly `zpool scrub` came back with this:
```
pool: blackhole
state: DEGRADED
status: One or more devices are faulted in response to persistent errors.
Sufficient replicas exist for the pool to continue functioning in a
degraded state.
action: Replace the faulted device, or use 'zpool clear' to mark the device
repaired.
scan: scrub repaired 0B in 02:01:59 with 0 errors on Tue Jul 11 04:02:09 2023
config:
NAME STATE READ WRITE CKSUM
blackhole DEGRADED 0 0 0
raidz1-0 DEGRADED 0 0 0
ata-WDC_WD120EDAZ-11F3RA0_5PG8DYKC ONLINE 0 0 0
ata-WDC_WD120EFBX-68B0EN0_5QKJ6M8B ONLINE 0 0 0
ata-WDC_WD120EFBX-68B0EN0_5QKJTT8B FAULTED 51 0 0 too many errors
errors: No known data errors
```
I only got the drive 6 months ago, well within WD's 3 year warranty so I opened a support case, but do errors like this basically always mean the drive is its way out or is it possible to have false positives?
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Both. Currently she wants help deciding how long to stay in which places, and wants help picking and booking hotels. So she’s trying to wait until I’m ready to plan, but I’m basically never ready to plan until it’s right before the trip and I need to rush to make up for lost time.