One thing that helps me a little bit is I learned that when I switch topics, I always try to switch them back at the end of the conversation, so that my brain goes through all the other associations again and when I missed something that’s when I remember at least parts of it.
This is a me thing so take it with a grain of salt.
Btw it sounds like your partner’s ADHD is quite strong and I’ve heard in extreme cases you kinda have to look into medication. I know it’s not always the end all be all but maybe that’s something to look into.
Otherwise I wish both of you good luck with your search for answers :)
AuDHD here.
One thing that helps me a little bit is I learned that when I switch topics, I always try to switch them back at the end of the conversation, so that my brain goes through all the other associations again and when I missed something that’s when I remember at least parts of it.
This is a me thing so take it with a grain of salt.
Btw it sounds like your partner’s ADHD is quite strong and I’ve heard in extreme cases you kinda have to look into medication. I know it’s not always the end all be all but maybe that’s something to look into.
Otherwise I wish both of you good luck with your search for answers :)