Thanks! Is there something about the larger area space which means there are fewer hops?

Maybe a silly question: any ideas why there are shorter routes using IPv6?

Oh, I’m sorry that you found that :( Hopefully we can all help each other more :) If you have more time in the future I’m interested to hear how you go setting up Lemmy on Windows :)

Everyone else here is saying it’s not recommended. I’d agree with that. But I’m super curious to hear whether we can, not whether we should! So, OP: I say give it a go and report back what problems you run in to!

May be worth having a look at the ActivityPub protocol. It’s the way Lemmy instances (and other stuff!) communicate with one another. From there I think it will be clearer how a single Lenny instance could behave. https://activitypub.rocks

I avoid software which requires a relational database altogether. For me that’s part of the fun of self hosting: what’s the simplest possible system I can get away with at my tiny scale?

I imagine they feel like they’re not getting anywhere.

I played around with smtp2go and it felt like what you’re after.

I know how you feel though. I self-hosted mail for about 5 years with a VPS running OpenBSD. Eventually I looked at “outsourcing” SMTP to get around this crazy IP reputation stuff. But eventually I went with a fully hosted service Migadu.

Exactly. I think about an email hosting service. What does downtime mean exactly? Is the service down when you can send but cannot receive mail? Or when the service receives mail but it can’t deliver it to your inbox? Nailing this down can be difficult, especially (in my experience) with the ones who decide where $$$ goes.