snooggums
Also known as snooggums on midwest.social and kbin.social.
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It took a couple of months, but I had to get into the habit of writing down everything I ate. So each meal, each snack, etc. The first month was the hardest, but after that month I was solid on meals and working on snacks, and then around the end of the second month I was making decisions to not eat so I wouldn’t need to write it down.
Sadly I lost the habit during covid because it felt successful enough that it trailed off. Put the weight right back on and I’m trying to get back to it again, but damn it’s hard!
The easiest way to make new friends is to be around people in social settings where you have the opportunity to find someone who clicks with your preferred way of communicating. A dedicated ADHD group may or may not work, but it would be a possibility.
I haven’t made new friends for decades because the small group I have filtered down to the current group because we stayed in touch. I have had opportunities, but nobody else has clicked or been a good fit to loop in. Occasionally we have new people join in and fade out. I am not the one who adds to the group because my ADHD works well with about four other people.
Can’t imagine starting over somewhere new without knowing someone already.
Methylphenidate that I have a prescription for does work well enough to follow through on mindful meditation.
I am on the spectrum of aphantasia where picturing something I haven’t seen before doesn’t work and most things are still formless conceptual ideas, so the meditation that requires picturing something in my mind still doesn’t work. But I can focus long enough to understand why!
So far, I’ve been taking Elvanse continuously since June 20th, but I don’t really feel any effect, or I’m not really aware of it.
You are handling the triggering comments, and if I’m reading it right you aren’t nearly as constantly fatigued anymore. This seemed like a huge change shortly after, but now that you have adjust it doesn’t seem any different because you are getting used to the reduced symptoms. An ADHD medication working just means not having all the negative side effects, it won’t make you feel super awesome all the time.
It is funny because Vyvanse gave me weird side effects without any benefit (too long ago to remember) while the ER methylphenidate had a progressively more effective benefit with zero side effects for me as the dosage went up to the one I settled on. Been taking it for years and have to justify to insurance once a year that no, I don’t want to try the ones that didn’t work just let me stay on this.
Glad to hear you found one that works for you!
I am on the extended release (ER) for methylphenidate on a high dose for like 20 years and for me it lets me focus while it is working.
Sustained release (SR) does not work nearly as well for me. Standard release wears off way too fast.
People have very different rates of success or side effects so yes, it really could be that different! It sounds like this isn’t the right one for your kiddo.
So I just deleted a wall of text and will restart with a concise rewording as an example of avoiding having too much!
Keeping things involves a combination of taking up space, a time and effort cost to keep clean and to move around, and a possible monetary cost in some cases. While judging that cost isn’t an exact science, the core idea is that inexpensive stuff that you don’t interact with regularly costs a lot more to keep around than to replace if you need it in the future. Heck, some expensive stuff that takes up space isn’t worth keeping around either, but the hard part is making a decision to let some things go and cheap and cumbersome is the best to start with!
I share your love of keeping screws. In fact, I tend to keep the ones from prebuilt stuff or from things I enjoy taking apart and those are things where keeping a reasonable amount is not a bad thing IF you can keep them easily organized. I have a ton of them, but since I sort them as I go they don’t really add any extra effort over throwing them away.
Computer parts are similar, but larger! I have four or five motherboards from past computer builds that I should get rid of but keep thinking I will build into linux boxes but haven’t gotten around to it because there isn’t an end goal past doing it. But I have taken baby steps to limit myself to one tub of excess computer parts and successfully threw away all the duplicate cabling and stuff that is not needed because that stuff was only needed a few times and looking back I could have replaced them for a few bucks.
Well, at least the wall is shorter and I will leave you with a recommendation to NOT put anything in storage in the attic. Choose to reduce instead, because it is easy to forget anything you put up there, it is often a pain in the ass to get in and out, and it will get so dusty over time. Cleaning that forgotten stuff when moving after a few years or more is absolutely horrible!
Yup!
My workarounds are:
Keep things to a small enough number that I don’t lose something in the mess. That generally means single digit numbers of things near each other. Exceptions apply for things I am really, really interested in!
The best way to remember something is to put it between me and where I’m going, but only if it is the ONLY thing. So I can put something on the steps to the garage to remind myself to take it, but if my wife puts something there the system fails. I can put an object in front of a door, or on top of something I need, but it has to be interacted with in some way.
If I start to do something that involves going through a doorway or a place out of sight there is no stopping for interruptions. After a decade of consistency on part my wife finally waits for me to finish doing something when I say “not yet” as that is pretty much all I can get out without losing track of the things I’m doing that I don’t care about but needs to be done.
Knowing what I will forget and acknowledging it out loud has been partially successful with people’s understanding. No, adding something extra won’t help me remember names, it is just going to take enough repetition for it to stick and I’ll still say it wrong occasionally. Doesn’t mean I don’t care!
Holy money, getting ADHD meds is already enough of a hassle without the additional steps you have.
Not being able to see something right there is so damn frustrating. Meds helped me a lot, but they don’t work 24 hours a day.
It doesn’t fix anything, but your frustrations are valid and you are definitely not alone. When anyone tells you to overcome these things through sheer will remind yourself that the last ‘D’ is for disorder and they obviously don’t get it. They don’t know how much we are already kicking ourselves for things out of our control and we are trying as hard as we can.
Yeah, but one time there was an actual user who did use bots to mass downvote with obviously randomly named bots so that means any time something gets down votes it is brigading and vote manipulation!
Small AI communities nobody wants getting four down votes is comparable to LGBTQ+ communities getting dozens or hundreds of downvotes from actual brigading!
If you don’t like it ignore it, and also I’m going to follow anyone who doesn’t like my slop around and harass them!
Did I forget anything?
I have a 20 year marriage to my wife, a teenager, and a dog and all happy to see me.
How you doin’?
Edit: Oh, and I’ve been playing games and chatting with five friends for the last four hours. Played Helldivers 2 with two of em, Call of Duty with two others, and have posted here in between matches. Even touched grass earlier today!
Yes, unruffed is the one YPTB mod who is cahoots with the other three mods (of other communities) that are all doing the mass bannings, and even using each other’s moderation as an excuse for more bans.
Example of mass banning (multiple communities, many users in a short time span)
Note I am perfectly fine with the last one for no down voting allowed for that community. It is stupid and rules don’t show in the main feed, but no down voting is in the rules and they were banned without being accused of more than what they did.
Off the top of my head.
unruffled at dbzero hypes up the conspiracy that everyone who gets banned for vote manipulation/whatever deserves it. I think they posted something about the brigade menace and treat a handful of down votes on something as the end of the world.
cryptagion at dbzero does mass bans for one or a few down votes
mystic mushroom at dbzero does mass bans for one or a few down votes
Also jet at hackertalks does mass bans for one or a few down votes
Think there was one other too but can’t remember their name. The complaint is that they don’t understand what lurkers are (vote but don’t comment) or that people might browse all and not care about AI but down vote something because it is awful. Then they make ridiculous accusations and accuse anyone who disagrees with them of being a troll.
If they just banned down votes and banned anyone who down voted with the reason ‘down votes not allowed’ then they would not be getting the widespread negative reaction that they are getting by accusing people of brigading or vote manipulation or ‘anti-ai harassment’ and all their other stupid and insulting made up ban reasons.
Also one of the YPTB mods is in a group with like 3 others who all:
Flood user modlogs with unfounded accusations of vote manipulation and trolling.
Think that people browsing All should know the size and history of every community before downvoting a single post. Also don’t understand what lurkers are and assume intent.
Take downvoting very personally.
In my experience it still improved things after the meds wore off because I spent less time kicking myself for screwing up earlier in the day! So it had positive impacts outside of work and school because I could enjoy the more relaxed stuff.
I do use games to help unwind in the evenings, but as long as I do it in moderation it is more like mental meditation/exercise which helps with sleeping and overall mental health. I play games from about 8-10 p.m. nowadays, because it is after family things have settled down and about an hour before bedtime.
Make the best use of your medicated time to build routines for consistency, which in my case helped even after the meds wore off (eventually). Putting keys and wallet in the same space actually stuck after taking meds!
Other than that, do consider that the meds won’t work all day so plan around them. Work and home upkeep while they are working is great, downtime for things like games or winding down after they wear off. It won’t cause motivation to do things you want to do while it is working, but it sure helps with barriers!
What worked for me: Don’t have too much calorie dense and convenient food around. Track what I eat. Assume I ate 20% more calories withiut noticing. Get exercise doing interesting things like long walks in nature because it keeps me from snacking because I’m bored.
Worked for a few years, then of course I thought it wasn’t necessary anymore and started adding weight back. Starting up again, and really the biggest weak point for me is still the impulsive snacking when I don’t keep myself occupied.
Pretty much, yeah. I’m actually pretty successful professionally and have had to temper my excitement about new projects knowing that I’ve dug myself into too much work in the past. I also have to pay a lot of attention to the audience when discussing technical topics to avoid getting too far into the weeds.
Really it just comes down to being self aware enough about my tendencies which is something even neurotypical people would get a huge benefit from. I just have to do it to function in society, so I get a LOT of practice!
I just accepted that getting focused on something is an urge like any other and to avoid spending much money if it reminded me of other times I got sucked into something and it didn’t work out. Basically setting a limit on cost.
Time though, that will be lost anyway and I’ve come to accept it. After a few decades my limitations have sunk in and it is really just coping with the disorder.
Also it isn’t a superpower. Yes, quick and shallow understanding of things can come pretty quickly if I am interested. But that is a tradeoff for the inability to retain most previously gained knowledge.
I have a wide variety depending on whether I’m cooking for myself, eating with others, and what is going on.
Generally in the mornings I make either over easy eggs with toast or breakfast burritos as both csn be whipped up in about 10 minutes with minimal cleanup. If I’m lazy in the evening I might make a can of soup with crackers, or beanie weenies that I can eat over a few meals. If I get some time and motivation on the weekend I will cook down onions, bell peppers, and jalepenos to use on the eggs and breakfast burrito during the weekdays.
Other than that it is fast food/takeout if I’m busy or unmotivated and if motivated I will make something random that takes around 6 ingredients because that is about my limit. Home made burgers, grilled vegetables, steaks with a side of broccoli or corn, etc.
Then if I have workplace appropriate leftovers I take those, although they also have salads for sale. I work from home 3 days a week and heat up whatever leftovers are around.
If you are absolutely unmotivated then simple sandwiches with an apple on the side worked for me when I didn’t cook enough for leftovers.