I have ADHD and my partner does not. When we were planning our wedding it was really difficult because she would do most of the planning (because I wasn’t doing it and someone had to and she loves planning), but when we needed to plan anything together it was like pulling teeth for me. I wanted to help out but it was always so difficult to get myself to actually do anything.
The same thing happens with vacation planning. Even planning a trip to somewhere I want to go can feel about as fun as doing taxes. We’re currently trying to plan a trip overseas that’s just in a few months, and my partner really wants to book hotels (I totally agree) but any amount of planning feels like I’m being punished, and I don’t know why. I don’t have any fun and my mood tanks and I just get quiet and a little irritable.
Anyone else experience this and have any suggestions? I hate leaving all of the planning to my partner, but planning on my schedule has lead to us missing things in the past.
Random thoughts, feel free to ignore: I wonder if it’s partly because it’s not urgent (as in what we could plan today could just as easily be planned tomorrow) vs importance thing? If we planned on “my schedule” we’d be doing things way too close to the actual date. If we set a date to vacation plan, when it comes I just treat it like a todo list item I just need to finish up so I can get back to whatever I want to do instead.
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Recently planned a trio to a convention.
Looked on some page for a location to sleep, found something I liked and booked it.
Probably not the cheapest but I was kinda late anyway.
Meanwhile my mother (which I live with) basically plans the whole trip for ~10 days.
On the one hand I hate surprises on the other I hate planning too much and being restricted.
Gotta choose the poison :/