In the last year or so I started to see so many people of my age that have done truly incredible things and still doing more.
For the vast majority of my life my only goals were gettimg academic satisfaction and doing unproductive stuff in the free time to get temporary pleasure. No end goal whatsoever.
I kind of don’t know what I’ve been doing in the last 17 years while someone gets a patent on solar systems, other invents a new recyclable plastic, and another found a successful startup. I mean, they all find what they’re supposed to be doing with their lives and excel in them.
I feel overwhelmed for trying to pace up with these kind of people. Yet I don’t like the way the things are and I can’t do anything but envy those people. Anyone with experience in this regard? How did you deal with this? Did you eventually “pace up” with these people or was it too late or an unattainable goal?
Edit: Whoops, I didn’t expect so many replies! Thanks, I’ll look into them all
I’m fixing it by going to therapy and am learning avenues to move forward happy. I would recommend you do the same even if you don’t think you have something mentally wrong, your happiness is important and thoughts like these can spiral out of control without you realizing it.
It’s not really about being happy or sad. I just want to be like these people. I don’t think this by itself would really help with what I’m looking for. I’d rather be unsatisfied instead of being satisfied without growth as well.
Also, I indeed went through some mental shittery in the past. I’m also kind of feeling the title because I was being an absolutely unproductive shit for two years in the prime years of my youth. Like, all that over literally nothing. Nothing that makes the slightest sense.
I think I successfully came over it though. Proud for that, but the time wasted won’t come back. You’d think I won’t let my time wasted like that again
I feel you, I’ve been feeling similar lately too, I think it’s something a lot of people go through so just know you aren’t alone. I guess what I’m trying to say in my previous comment is that a common stigma is this:
It’s not really about being happy or sad
I get that you might not feel that way, but it kind of seems like you have some stuff weighing you down somewhere in there. Even if it isn’t obvious I just think having a therapist to talk to would really help. IMO it’s good even if someone doesn’t think anything is wrong and is perfectly happy. It’d be good just to maintain that!
You are not logged in. However you can subscribe from another Fediverse account, for example Lemmy or Mastodon. To do this, paste the following into the search field of your instance: [email protected]
No such thing. Ask away!
!nostupidquestions is a community space dedicated to being helpful and answering each others’ questions on various topics.
Rule 1- All posts must be legitimate questions. All posts titles must include a question.
All posts must be legitimate questions, and all post titles must include a question. Questions that are joke or trolling questions, memes, song lyrics as title, etc. are not allowed here. See Rule 6 for all exceptions.
Rule 2- Your question subject cannot be illegal or NSFW material.
Your question subject cannot be illegal or NSFW material. You will be warned first, banned second.
Rule 3- Do not seek mental, medical and professional help here.
Do not seek mental, medical and professional help here. Breaking this rule will not get you or your post removed, but it will put you at risk, and possibly in danger.
Rule 4- No self promotion or upvote-farming of any kind.
That’s it.
Rule 5- No baiting or sealioning or promoting an agenda.
Questions which, instead of being of an innocuous nature, are specifically intended (based on reports and in the opinion of our crack moderation team) to bait users into ideological wars on charged political topics will be removed and the authors warned - or banned - depending on severity.
Rule 6- Regarding META posts and joke questions.
Provided it is about the community itself, you may post non-question posts using the [META] tag on your post title.
On fridays, you are allowed to post meme and troll questions, on the condition that it’s in text format only, and conforms with our other rules. These posts MUST include the [NSQ Friday] tag in their title.
If you post a serious question on friday and are looking only for legitimate answers, then please include the [Serious] tag on your post. Irrelevant replies will then be removed by moderators.
Rule 7- You can't harass or disturb other members.
If you vocally harass or discriminate against any individual member, you will be removed.
Likewise, if you are a member, sympathiser or a resemblant of a movement that is known to largely hate, mock, discriminate against, and/or want to take lives of a group of people, and you were provably vocal about your hate, then you will be banned on sight.
Rule 8- All comments should try to stay relevant to their parent content. Rule 9- Reposts from other platforms are not allowed.
Let everyone have their own content.
Rule 10- Majority of bots aren't allowed to participate here.
Unless included in our Whitelist for Bots, your bot will not be allowed to participate in this community. To have your bot whitelisted, please contact the moderators for a short review.
Partnered Communities
You can view our partnered communities list by following this link. To partner with our community and be included, you are free to message the moderators or comment on a pinned post.
Community Moderation
For inquiry on becoming a moderator of this community, you may comment on the pinned post of the time, or simply shoot a message to the current moderators.
Matrix Chat Room
To find & join our chat room, log into fluffychat.im(or any other matrix client) and put #nostupidquestions:matrix.org on the search bar.
Credits
Our breathtaking icon was bestowed upon us by @Cevilia!
I’m fixing it by going to therapy and am learning avenues to move forward happy. I would recommend you do the same even if you don’t think you have something mentally wrong, your happiness is important and thoughts like these can spiral out of control without you realizing it.
It’s not really about being happy or sad. I just want to be like these people. I don’t think this by itself would really help with what I’m looking for. I’d rather be unsatisfied instead of being satisfied without growth as well.
Also, I indeed went through some mental shittery in the past. I’m also kind of feeling the title because I was being an absolutely unproductive shit for two years in the prime years of my youth. Like, all that over literally nothing. Nothing that makes the slightest sense.
I think I successfully came over it though. Proud for that, but the time wasted won’t come back. You’d think I won’t let my time wasted like that again
I feel you, I’ve been feeling similar lately too, I think it’s something a lot of people go through so just know you aren’t alone. I guess what I’m trying to say in my previous comment is that a common stigma is this:
I get that you might not feel that way, but it kind of seems like you have some stuff weighing you down somewhere in there. Even if it isn’t obvious I just think having a therapist to talk to would really help. IMO it’s good even if someone doesn’t think anything is wrong and is perfectly happy. It’d be good just to maintain that!