The butocracy can be absolute hell as are a huge emphasis on being punctual.

But at least we got a decent enough Healthcare to actuslly get therapy and meds if you need them. It’s barred behind said hellish butocracy. But at least it is there.

Just a normal alarm timer app.

Forget appointments? Lose track of time when doing things? I set timers. Most apps allow recurring timers. For example I got one going off twice each day to remind me to drink some water.

I gotta leave in 40 minutes so I got some time to read or whatever. If I don’t set an alarm I’ll lose track of time and be late. Easy fix.

As far as habits go.

Be honest with myself about my shortcomings. If I start gaming at 9 pm it won’t be half an hour. Be honest. Go to bed now or accept it will be midnight.

No, I won’t just do that later. I will forget. Write it down or do it now. Else I will forget.

I do make more deliberate choices on what I expose myself to content and general life experience wise. Because when it comes down to it I don’t have a say in where the next hyperfixation takes me.

For example I am staying the hell away from trading card games because I enjoy being able to pay my rent.

I can relate so much. I’ve had both happen several times. I’m currently back to the plan of minimum effort but it’s hard.

Whenever I’ve gotten a fun hobby I just think about it all the time and it becomes so hard to focus on my job and even harder to force myself to do the same boring shit every day. Can’t wait to get home too finally do something fun and interesting with my life.

The sequel to Groundhog Day nobody ever wanted.

Oh for sure. It can be tough to zoom out and see what is going on and what you are doing while in the midst of things. I struggle with this all the time. The advice I gave is what I do when I do it right. Doesn’t mean I get it right all that often. But I’m getting better and I keep practicing.

I will usually just acknowledge it without giving an explanation. People will almost always accept that. Examples.

Oh I think I just got carried away there. Let’s take a step back. Do you have any questions?

Hey I think I got a bit too excited about the project for a sec. I hope that wasn’t too much.

It’s usually fine and takes the awkwardness out of the situation if there was any. And it shows people you realized what was going on. That’s usually all they need to hear. No apology and no justifications or explanations needed. I found those would often just make it worse rather than better. Just be brief and move on. The longer you stay in the topic of an awkward situation the more it will stay awkward.

I go through a ton of hypothetical conversations like that in my head. So far I was always able to discern between real and made up though as far as I can tell.

Dad of a very active daughter here. I know the feeling exactly.

Two things helped me and her mom immensely.

For the keeping our of trouble part it is such much better to set up a safe enclosed environment for her to explore safely rather than running after her. We made the living room child safe.

The other thing is I changed to prepping everything for my morning routine in the evening. For the same reason you described. It only gets worse when they don’t sleep through the night so I was very happy I did.

I haven’t found a way to actually rest properly. Closest I come is doing something which requires Littles focus, has basically no state of failure but is still satisfying to me.

For me that’s painting miniatures. I can remove the paint and repaint if I don’t like the result. It requires focus but for me very little and it allows me to rest my mind or listen to a podcast or music while doing so.

Few other activities work for me. Video games can work but only if the game is super chill and requires little focus like Dorfrimantik for example. Or turn based games on general such as civilization. But there is still the addiction issue you talked about.

But overall it’s tough. Actually resting also makes me depressed. I need to do stimulating activities to keep my mind healthy. That issue is especially noticeable when any job makes me too exhausted or eats all my time to do my hobbies.

That’s a good point but I’m taking the gamble. Fire is super rare while locking myself out is super common. Also I’m living in windows jumpable height.

Yeah I’m currently trying to find something bearable that pays the bills.

I feel you. I still haven’t found my keys as you say. I tried different kinds of work but it all crashed and burned. Then depression and now that I have gotten that in check I still don’t know what I want or even can do.

How does one even find out what one wants to do?

Yeah that is the dumb “whoever gets angry is wrong” mantra I meant. It’s an injustice in itself that is so absolutely stupid. It means if you hurt someone enough to make them angry, you win. What kind of behavior does that reward in society? Self-control by the person being provoked and being an absolute asshole by anyone wanting to “win” an argument.

Thank you for your well thought out comment!

What’s funny about Jordan Peterson is that while I rarely agree with him, he does not make me angry because I believe he argues in good faith. Imo he actually does believe what he says and I wouldn’t blame anyone for that. I came to that conclusion by watching quite a bit of his material and even reading his twelve rules book. So I believe my opinion is well-founded. But it definitely confirms your snake example in a way.

In general I don’t think I am quick to judge at all. That’s probably why after I get angry I will often regret the extent of my rage but rarely feel it was fully unjustified.

When it comes to looking for where it hurts, yeah, sure. Lies and people being deliberately unfair and reckless, selfish has hurt me in the past. And when it happens again I get angry as a defensive mechanism. I am fully aware. And other people do their shit because of what they have experienced. So far it has not helped me control it better to know that.

I do yell at household items too sometimes. It’s one of the least worrying parts of this for me. Especially when nobody else is around.

While I do struggle with that a tiny bit still I have gotten so much better at dealing with my own expectations as well as criticism in general.

But also this is rarely what makes me angry if at all anymore. It’s more injustice, inconsideration causing harm or ignorance and malintent.

Currently reading books while working in that part.

I like the way you phrased it too. Very good words for thing.

Ah right. Yeah it often takes all day for me to calm down. Or I can’t sleep because of it.

I get angry quite often so I don’t really feel it is bottled up. More like there is an infinite amount of it.

As for age and all basically they are out of the picture.

I feel like it’s also getting worse with age. Maybe I’m becoming more bitter and cynical as I experience life and the world around me.

And while I so far have always been able to not do more than yell. It has been close a few times.

I don’t think anger is bad. It shows you when something is wrong for you. But the intensity is too much almost all the time.

It requires less consistency I think. You have to set it up once. Then you have to input each time you get more meds to update your stock. That isn’t too often either but you need to be consistent in that.

In return you don’t need to remember by yourself when to get new meds. And you don’t need to remember all by yourself to take your meds everyday, maybe even multiple times a day.

Sounds like a good deal to me.

Can’t be arsed to walk to the car or don’t have one?

Lock your door. Put everything you need to take with you with your keys. Unless you climb out the windows it should be very hard to forget the pile.

Wo ist fir afd wenn man sie braucht? Nil Gänse abschieben. Sofort.

Diese Meinung würde Ihnen präsentiert von der Automobil Lobby.

‘we are already done? We can’t tell anyone it was this easy. Hey, make sure tell everyone you meet Rome was not built in a day.’

Romans after day 1 of building Rome

Wir sollten die zu dieser Höhle der Löwen Sendung schicken. Dann würde ich sogar mal ne Folge gucken.

Only thing that works for me is to never go shopping hungry. That way I am able to not buy unhealthy food and snacks. So if I want to eat or snack there are no unhealthy options.

So either I’m actually hungry and will eat what is there. Or I’m not that hungry. Also there is no chance my lazy ass is going to go and get any snacks even if I feel like I really want them.

Arnachim

Es wurde vermutlich kürzlich von TUI und Co mit dem Geld gewedelt. Da musste man kurz springen.

Ach deren Bestechern… Ich meine sugar daddies… Ach nee warte Lobbyisten ist das Wort. Denen fällt dann sicher noch etwas ein. Irgendwo ist bestimmt noch eine kapital und Unternehmenssteuer die gesenkt werden könnte. Oder ein Arbeitnehmerrecht welches man aufheben sollte.

Am Ende leben wir dann in den USA.

Wohnst du noch oder lebst du schon.

Dann müssen die Leute halt aufhören zu wohnen.

Was ich bei dem Klima verstehen kann ist dass sich einige Lehrer nicht mehr aktiv gegen die Rechten einsetzen wollen. Man muss offensichtlich damit rechnen angefeindet, bedroht und am Ende ohne Unterstützung weggeschickt zu werden.

Aber eine gesellschaftliche eventuell schon.

Das kann ich gut verstehen. Für mich habe ich das anders gelöst. Hauptsächlich da die Spieleauswahl auf dem PC mir mehr zusagt.

Ich hab einfach ein Benutzerkonto auf meinem Rechner welches ich fürs TV zocken nutze. Ich schalte den Rechner per Fernbedienung an so wie den TV. Dann wähle ich mit dem Kontroller den Account aus und der startet direkt im steam Big picture Modus. Also keine Ablenkung.

Den vorhanden PC an den TV anschließen ist ein größeres Hindernis als mehrere hundert Euro für eine Konsole hinzulegen für die man dann nochmals Spiele kauft anstatt die steam Bibliothek zu nutzen?

Updates haben Konsolen heutzutage übrigens auch. Sehe das Argument immer noch nicht wirklich.

Beim ersten Teil stimme ich dir zu. Ich wollte nur aufzeigen wie eng gefasst das Asylrecht ist. Und dass wirtschaftsflüchtling eben nicht heißt dass Menschen herkommen weil sie statt es okay zu haben lieber Wohlstand wollen. Sondern es eben auch dabei oft um Leben und Tod geht.

Beim zweiten Teil hast du viele punkte angesprochen die ich auch so sehe. Es gibt in der Welt so viele Menschen, die in so schlechten Bedingungen leben, dass sie in unser und die anderen wohlhabenden Länder umsiedeln wollen. Das Ausmaß ist so groß dass unsere Wirtschaft das aktuell nicht auffangen kann. Ich denke dass man durchaus besser haushalten könnte und durch weniger Vetternwirtschaft und Korruption deutlich mehr Geld für menschliche und soziale Belange übrig hatte. Aber das ist ein neues Fass das man evtl nicht aufmachen muss jetzt.

Daher stellte ich die moralische Grundlage in Frage mit der Industrieländer Menschen der Nationen auf deren Ausbeutung ihr Wohlstand basiert den Zutritt verwehrt. Dabei sterben Menschen.

Wenn dann Milliarden genutzt werden um Grenzkontrollen zu stärken aber kein Geld für das aufnehmen von Flüchtlingen ist oder gar dafür die Ursachen für das fliehen anzugehen, dann entlarven sich die Prioritäten doch sehr schnell.

Aber die Ausbeutung geschah auf höheren Niveau da die Leute die ausbeuter andere Länder noch deutlich gründlicher ausbeuteten und dort nicht auf Nachhaltigkeit achtete. Denn dort mussten sie ja in Zukunft nicht leben.