I’d say the thought is still there but my brain has just lost its ‘connection’ to it. And the stimuli somehow start building that connection again

“Wait. Haven’t we had this exact conversation before?,”

Haha yes. It’s sad how predictable this implies we are.

So say im scrolling through my gallery, and a specific sequence of pictures makes me have a thought, which I try to remember, but soon forget. If I go back and look at those pictures again soon enough, they usually re-trigger the forgotten thought.

Absolutely. I often find that re-tracing my steps makes the thought come back. It makes me wonder if the same set of stimuli would make me have the same thought even eg. a month later

Thank you. That makes two of us

I don’t think that’s the way they meant it.

I wish! The latter unfortunately hasn’t cut it so far so I’m looking to get myself into situations where someone does the former for me as an inherent part of that situation (hence for free).

Haha, good point, a partner can fill the hole too and doesn’t limit you to a specific job. This actually worked really well for me when I was trying to start a business with my friend and he took care of the organisational/searching activities while I could focus on the technical side. I’ve considered joining the army and I might actually give it a go a bit later on in life.

$1921 🤯 We need a Lemmy livestream for the countdown to it settling

Yup! I only found out about it because I googled to see if it exists

Now that’s a move we haven’t seen since 1947

Agh your ADHD must be stronger than mine

Also I can see this being useful in startups, right?

Ooh this is good. Yes I can see my ability to absorb wikipedia coming in useful here.

How do you think I should prepare myself for a role like this qualification-wise? I’m interested in STEM but the thought of picking one niche (say, chemical engineering) and devoting myself to it really hurts.

Yeah, this is the example I heard too

I was gonna ask this too. I’ve heard that some employers in the UK (perhaps in the Netherlands too) are actually explicitly asking for ND people in their job listings.

Ooh, quite a lot. My Ritalin (yes it is IR) dosage tends to go 15mg - 50min - 10mg - 50min - 5mg - 50min - 5mg. So that does roughly equal the 36mg dose of Concerta I guess

Ah I see, I suspected the dosage labelling might work this way.

Because it doesn’t calm my restless limbs and brain the way 15mg of Ritalin does.

Hmm, interesting idea. Do you know roughly how much of their day it took up?

I quite liked the idea of doing translation, as it uses the creative part of my brain which successfully gets me into flow, but unfortunately they are very picky and translation as a career is quickly dying out.

Coursera? Small units? This sounds useful (but for ADHD learning, not for jobs), I’ll look into this. How widely are the Coursera certificates accepted?

This does sound quite good, especially seeing as I’m quite a techy person.

Agreed. But in any case, the process of contacting a place, waiting for a response, reminding them, finding a date, booking a hotel and arranging transport is exactly the sort of process that us ADHD people struggle with, and I’d be curious to see what techniques he’s developed to keep track of them all. Not because he has ADHD (I don’t think he does), but because the shear scale of the process would put him or whoever he’s employing into the same position as us.

Yeah I have this problem too. There’s so many

“I just need x to get to the next step of y plan”

weighing my head down but writing them all out and updating them would be such an arduous and impractical task. Let alone dragging around (ie. losing) a physical planner. I don’t knw what to do. I wonder how people without ADHD deal with this. I’ve been thinking that it would really help me to be able to study how a youtuber like Tom Scott (who travels to a new place for each of his videos) keeps track of all his planning. Because the logistics of filming his videos are essentially the same tasks that we struggle with but a much bigger volume.

For some reason I’ve got this really bad habit of thinking up the experience I’d like to live and trying to make it reality, instead of seeing what’s actually out there and going with that…

Do you have any thoughts about what I should do about this? I’ve noticed this is a pattern in my behaviour and I thnk it really trips me up…

My goal when planning is not to set out exactly what I’m going to do, but rather to reduce uncertainty and gather information to improvise effectively if needed.

Missed this bit. This is good

Hmm, that’s a good suggestion.

Also, I’ve realised my Plan B problem can be generalized:

1. I want something
2. I search for the means
3. There are no means.
4. What now? I’m terrified of №3, it’s giving me a mental block to search in the first place… (but yeah, your suggestion helps here)

Oh no, this didn’t happen those were just two random examples

I think you’re a planner, but you’re so afraid that you’ll spend all this time planning and something won’t go exactly right, so you’re not planning anything at all.

Actually you hit the nail on the head there. Yeah I guess I should learn to improvise and go with what I’ve got more. For some reason I’ve got this really bad habit of thinking up the experience I’d like to live and trying to make it reality, instead of seeing what’s actually out there and going with that… I don’t know where it came from or what to do about it

Yeah, I guess Plan Bs just come down to thinking out of the box

Ah, setting yourself a Plan B reminder is a great idea

Also agreed the pomodoro technique has really helped me Get Things Done.

How do you deal with unexpected Plan Bs? Like say, your traveling and looking for a place to stay but there are none, or you need some extra money but you can’t find any suitable jobs? Or if nobody replies to your emails?

!..I guess what’s really happening is my brain facing the reality of what it thinks should be possible vs. what is actually possible…!<

How do you deal with unexpected Plan Bs? Like say, your traveling and looking for a place to stay but there are none, or you need some extra money but you can’t find any suitable jobs? It might not be an ADHD problem but these things always really stump me.

!Is the answer to constantly lower my expectations/requirements?!<

Ugh. Definitely the second one 🥲 how do I learn to become the former?

Did that ease your latent anxiety as well? Have you been on both?

Thank you

You say you had problems with short term memory – did you keep forgetting what you were doing have having to re-trace your steps/thoughts? This is one of my problems, it’s gotten so bad that I forget like every 2 minutes and always mumble ‘What was I doing? What was I doing?’ to myself…