For me showering means standing in a windowless room staring at a blank wall for 20 minutes (I get lost in my thoughts). Also there are several steps and I have to think about each of them.
This means that I only end up showering when my fear of coming across as dirty becomes bigger than the dread of being bored.
What do you do?
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I usually touch my genitals to spice things up.
Drop the soap
I’ve got a waterproof phone, so I watch videos. The only downside is sometimes it takes a bit to find one I’m interested in.
I don’t really do scents, but if you find one you like and get products you enjoy the scent of, that could add a bit of stimulation, too.
Podcasts! They’re not all boring
Speedrun
I listen to podcasts on a waterproof Bluetooth speaker. I wish I could speed my showers up though. IDK, I just always feel the need to rinse off my hands between every step, and it takes so long. Example steps: Put shampoo in hands, put hands into hair and uh agitate. Hands now covered in shampoo lather and shampoo lather running down my forehead to my eyes. To stop that, I need to rinse my hands. Awkwardly wave my hands in the thin water jets until clean. With clean hands, move the descending lather back into my hair, then step under the water to rinse my hair. Hair’s rinsed but hands not fully. Hand rinsing dance again. Next step, face wash, and on and on and on. God I wish I could speed it up.
I too use a bluetooth speaker in the shower; usually on NPR news. the short nature of their coverage usually helps me focused so I don’t zone out.
RE: Rinsing - tbh, there’s nothing wrong with this unless you’re extremely water / hot water / time crunched - rinsing between each steps helps prevent cross contaminating your body with stuff you’re scrubbing off of other bits.
Thanks for the feedback, appreciated. I just wish the process was faster, somehow, for time and water/energy savings. Maybe I need a different shower head.
How do you shower dor 20 minutes?
Just kinda stand there and daydream
Recently installed a tankless electric system so I sadly no longer get kicked out for running out of hot water lol
This. I forget I’m in the shower.
15 minutes MINIMUM to wash and condition my hair then clean my body. The rest of the time is thinking or unspecified activities.
batin’?
I have long, thick, curly hair and washing it involves making sure the water soaks through to my scalp, making sure the conditioner gets through to the scalp, combing it through once it’s soaked with product (brushing it dry is a nightmare), scrubbing every inch of my scalp to avoid skin or dirt build up, then rinsing it.
This is a time consuming process. Luckily, my ADHD doesn’t interfere in this process because it makes every shower about me having an argument with someone where I win. Or babbling to myself about whatever major concerns I have (do I want to have children?)
And also I listen to podcasts. Right now I’m doing Dungeons and Daddies and the opening/closing song for it is such a goddamned banger it’s been playing nonstop in my head for at least the past 6 days.
People have said this, but a playlist. I put on music I’m familiar with that is upbeat. I figure each song is around 3 minutes, so when the song changes I’m like oh yeah, get to business, that’s three more minutes that have gone by! Bonus if you play the same playlist so you know “usually I’m rinsing my hair out by this song! I’ve got to hurry up!”
Nothing wrong with a weekly shower in some conditions.
A good podcast or TV show might help.
I guess you could stick a checklist to the wall to keep yourself on track
I got a shower phone holder which sticks to the wall and now I just put on a video essay or something while I’m showering. Still have a find a balance of a topic that’s not too engaging though otherwise I’d just stand there watching until the hot water runs out haha
I’ve got a waterproof timer which I set when I need to shower within a set timeframe. Seeing a countdown helps keeping a sense of urgency and helps me with not getting lost in thought.When I’m not on a limit I’ll put it in clock mode so I can let my thoughts wander, while still having some sense of elapsed time.
Make playlists of songs within your vocal range and sing! It’s so much easier in the shower. You’ll flow.
I just enjoy the quiet mmoment in the shower. I noticed that i take on alot of stimulation lately even when really, I dont need it. Its become a habit I have to unlearn. It start with the shower.
20 minutes??!!! Wtf are you doing? How much is your heating bill!!! I have a family of 5 and it costs over 4 euros a day to provide hot water for us all (200litre tank) of we all took 20 minutes, I would go full on dad rage.
I have no idea how to go faster than 20 minutes. Between washing my face, body, shaving my under arms and legs, washing my long hair… that’s just how long it takes. I do not spend any time zoning out or enjoying the shower, it’s strictly chores.
My shower time varies. If I’m not too dirty, just a quick wash on all the areas that get the dirtiest/smelliest will take 5 mins. If I feel I haven’t properly washed in some time, scrubbing down every inch of my skin with soap would take about 15-20 min’s.
You don’t need the shower running to shave.
Shampoo hair quickly, then leave conditioner in while you wash. Rinse conditioner at the end.
If you need to detangle hair use a wide comb, to to it faster. If it still takes too long, soak hair add a little conditioner then turn off the shower to detangle.
What is your hot water source?
Electric immersion heater, running on off peak electricity
I wonder how much you could save with a heat pump water heater
The ROI is long term, and not sure if it would actually happen, considering potential mechanical failure. My best plan for a high ROI is to put a hydraulic solar panel on the roof. Just need to get round to it, so many other jobs taking priority at the moment.
Eh I just hired someone to do mine. Got me off oil. The rebates offered helped
I’m wondering how people take showers shorter than 20 minutes. My normal shower routine takes 30-40 minutes, even longer if I need to shave intimate parts. if I’m in a real hurry and skip shaving altogether I might make it in 20 minutes. I have long hair, so I need to apply shampoo, rinse, apply some more shampoo, rinse, apply conditioner, while it soaks I wash my face with gentle face wash, soap up my body, shave, then rinse… It’s a long process.
I’m in and out of the bathroom in less than 15, time spent in the shower is as little as 3, but generally between 5 and 8 minutes. Male, I shave at the sink, short hair. If you’re in the shower doing tertiary tasks, I hope you at least, only run the water when you need to .
The water takes a couple minutes to warm up after it’s turned off. If I were to turn off the water for each task, showering would take even longer as I wait for the water temperature to normalize itself again