For me showering means standing in a windowless room staring at a blank wall for 20 minutes (I get lost in my thoughts). Also there are several steps and I have to think about each of them.
This means that I only end up showering when my fear of coming across as dirty becomes bigger than the dread of being bored.
What do you do?
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I put on some cool music and dance (safely) in the shower
Great music definitely breaks up the monotony of a shower.
Invite the neighbors.
This is un-ironically the best answer if we lived in a society.
Invite urself ;) cache my drift
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Waterproof Bluetooth speaker.
I second this. I have one that hangs on one of the shower curtain hooks, and I even got a little suction cup basket to set my phone in, in case I need to change songs or something. Works like a charm.
Nothing wrong with a weekly shower in some conditions.
A good podcast or TV show might help.
I let the intrusive thoughts win and hung my ceiling nightlight thing from the inside shower curtain and shower with the lights off. I find it more calming–not that I found found showers not relaxing before but feels like I’m shutting out the outside world more and that I find more relaxing.
I also have some of those bone conducting headphones that are waterproof so I listen to podcasts while I shower as well.
Make playlists of songs within your vocal range and sing! It’s so much easier in the shower. You’ll flow.
I got a shower phone holder which sticks to the wall and now I just put on a video essay or something while I’m showering. Still have a find a balance of a topic that’s not too engaging though otherwise I’d just stand there watching until the hot water runs out haha
You can reduce the time there by making the water colder. You can also approach the experience as a sequence of steps and work out how you can wash every single part of your body in the least amount of steps.
For example, is it quicker to get all wet, turn off the shower, lather up your body, then rinse it all off in one go, or is it more efficient to do it from top to bottom, one body part at a time?
What’s the fastest you’ve been able to go from sleeping to walking out the door having had a full shower?
Finally, you should probably have a shower once a day if you’re around other people or if you get visitors. You might not smell anything, but they definitely will.
Finally, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with zoning out in the shower. Some days you luxuriate in the experience, some days you don’t.
Good luck!
This for me. I have the moves choreographed and timed, and every shower is a step by step play of the sequence. I just repeat the ritual. I’m not the quickest (it takes about 8 minutes from entering to exiting the bathroom) because I’m paranoid about not cleaning thoroughly.
Music is my go to. Set my phone down and put a playlist on. I’m not quick at showering so if I didn’t use music I’d only half ass cleaning myself.
I’ve got a waterproof phone, so I watch videos. The only downside is sometimes it takes a bit to find one I’m interested in.
I don’t really do scents, but if you find one you like and get products you enjoy the scent of, that could add a bit of stimulation, too.
Shower beer
Set a stop watch and speedrun it
Ooh, good idea!
I find gamifying a good way to keep my focus. Speedrunning in particular
this could be a double edged sword - do not go for shampoo skip the timesave is not worth
Think of it like a chrckpoint
Hmm
Looks like 100% actually requires washing, but we could theoretically cut down an any% run to a few seconds.
shower tas incoming
Literally sprinting through a car wash
listen to music if you lower you inner voice. but i love the thoughts i have in showering. it’s the only safe place that i can listen to myself and think about things in general
I’ve got a waterproof timer which I set when I need to shower within a set timeframe. Seeing a countdown helps keeping a sense of urgency and helps me with not getting lost in thought.When I’m not on a limit I’ll put it in clock mode so I can let my thoughts wander, while still having some sense of elapsed time.
How do you shower dor 20 minutes?
Just kinda stand there and daydream
Recently installed a tankless electric system so I sadly no longer get kicked out for running out of hot water lol
This. I forget I’m in the shower.
batin’?
I have long, thick, curly hair and washing it involves making sure the water soaks through to my scalp, making sure the conditioner gets through to the scalp, combing it through once it’s soaked with product (brushing it dry is a nightmare), scrubbing every inch of my scalp to avoid skin or dirt build up, then rinsing it.
This is a time consuming process. Luckily, my ADHD doesn’t interfere in this process because it makes every shower about me having an argument with someone where I win. Or babbling to myself about whatever major concerns I have (do I want to have children?)
And also I listen to podcasts. Right now I’m doing Dungeons and Daddies and the opening/closing song for it is such a goddamned banger it’s been playing nonstop in my head for at least the past 6 days.
15 minutes MINIMUM to wash and condition my hair then clean my body. The rest of the time is thinking or unspecified activities.