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People have said this, but a playlist. I put on music I’m familiar with that is upbeat. I figure each song is around 3 minutes, so when the song changes I’m like oh yeah, get to business, that’s three more minutes that have gone by! Bonus if you play the same playlist so you know “usually I’m rinsing my hair out by this song! I’ve got to hurry up!”
I set a lot of alarms. A LOT. And I’m not allowed to dismiss them until the action is actually done. If I have an alarm to change the laundry into the dryer, I hit snooze until the dryer is running. Not on my way to change it over. Not once the clothes are in the dryer. Once the dryer is running.
You’re only as strong as your systems!
I don’t try to make systems that I like or that I wish / hope I can follow, I make systems that I know will work with my habits. Once I know where I drop my clothes on the floor, that’s where the laundry basket lives. I use a bookcase instead of a dresser for my clothes, that way I can see everything and I can actually keep things folded cause I’m not digging through looking for something. I don’t have coffee tables anymore because they are just stuff collectors! We use foldable TV trays that get put away at the end of the day. They can only collect a manageable amount of stuff to put away.
My husband (also ADHD) gets very ambitious with systems and routines, and then fails. Make systems that work with what you’ll actually keep up with!
It sounds like you want planning to be fun or enjoyable. Do you think you might be better at it if you accept : this is going to suck, I’m not going to like it, but it has to get done.
If I wait to feel motivated or to think I’ll enjoy something it’ll just never get done.
Planning with a partner under these conditions isn’t great. I end up pretty agitated and just want to get it over with. Maybe try to divide and conquer rather than plan together?
Maybe you take the less fun parts so planning doesn’t ruin any of the trip for you. She can plan the fun activities, and food/reservations and you can plan the actual travel and maybe accommodations?
Another thing that helps me with this kind of thing is I’ll set up my laptop and notebook right next to my relax spot on the couch. I don’t have to do the work right now, I just have to get everything set up. Then, later when I’m on the couch, I’m more likely to actually do the research because I don’t burn out getting everything I need / all set up.
I’ve been a receptionist, and I’ve been an office manager - if you have the choice, go for office manager! Depending on the size of the office you basically still are the receptionist you just have a lot more responsibility. For me, the hardest part of being a receptionist were the days where I had basically nothing to do but still had to sit there and look pleasant. If you work in an office where you can wear a Bluetooth piece in your ear, you can listen to podcasts which takes care of the monotony aspect.
The other hardest hurdle for me is not letting details fall through the cracks. I have come up with some checks and balances systems to make sure nothing gets forgotten, and obviously I write every single thing down as it’s asked of me. I cannot rely on my brain to just remember a task someone asked me to do. I make a lot of lists.
You can also fill downtime with stuff like an online typing class which just looks like you’re sending emails or whatever from the outside. Sitting and doing nothing is just too hard.
For what it’s worth, I know they’re the same in the DSM now, but I’m not hyperactive. If you are, being a receptionist might not be for you.
I don’t think it’s the soap and scrubbing that’s keeping these dishes from being washed immediately, it’s the stopping what you’re doing, stand up and bring the soak to the sink immediately that’s stopping people. That said I WISH my husband would just Rinse things immediately. He is using the pan literally two feet away from the sink! Just turn and rinse it out while it’s still hot!