Sorry about that 😅 In short, here is what I meant:

• I’ve tried a lot of things and systems
• the thing that worked the best was to buy a nice fountain pen and drop the structure whatsoever

I’ve tried all popular and popularized ways to do it, and I’ve been having hard time with it a lot. Here is a short list I can think if off top of my head:

• paper journals — structured (bullet journal), unstructured
• Obsidian
• RoamResearch
• evernote
• vimwiki

I’ve noticed that to me, the tool must be a perfect fit, otherwise I will just forget about it and stop using it.

So, now I use a paper notebook with Lamy Safari, and keep literally no system (except for writing down date and place — I don’t even write things down every day!). With that, I can keep journaling and taking adequate notes at work with at least some level of consistency — that I don’t miss any information in the process. That is what worked for me :)

My issue is that if I don’t keep them in check, I can just rage out on people, and will just regret of it. Hence the distraction, to prolongue the emotion in time, and to make the emotion intensity curve less steep.

If it is a Zoom meeting, than I just allow myself to run around the room, listening to the meeting on the background.

Otherwise, if it is an in-person meeting, I do lots of things

• watch around, try to make notes of important things
• practice active listening, trying to validate my understanding by parahprasing statements I heard as questions to validate correctness of my understanding. Even if I can’t ask them — I write them down, this also forces the muscle memory to make me recall more
• if it is a presentation, I sometimes run further ahead, riding the content like waves — so when presenter gets to some point,

The most important thing, though, always is to accept the fact that you can miss some parts. Neurotypicals miss bits and pieces of information too — they just don’t think it is a bad thing, so it is fine if you miss something, or hear something incorrectly. It is completely fine to ask to repeat something, or to get some information later by asking your colleagues.