Haha love it!

Great post, but I did get thrown for a loop with the word placeboing, which of course I read as place-boing…

Goblin.tools is the best! Are the best?

Am the best!!

Yeah, unfortunately meds don’t fix ADHD. They’re a treatment, not a cure. Meds are supposed to be used in conjunction with other treatments (such as therapy, as an example) to be most effective. I know, it sucks, but these are the cards we’ve been dealt.

Bold of you to assume I’d read or even see that note…

Huh. That’s a good point, I should do something about the hot house I live in. Probably easier doing that than relocating my meds to a different place where I’m guaranteed to never find them again

I mean, they’re two different things, so I would think a separate diagnosis wouldn’t hurt.

On a side note, my therapist told me that she has never met or worked with a single ASD patient who wasn’t also ADHD, so take from that what you will.

Interesting. Ymmv, I guess

You probably already know this, but if you’re watching ticket prices, try to check from a different phone or laptop each time. As in, check with your phone one day, your computer the next week, and while you’re at work the week after. Something about ISP tracking or something means that prices can go up if the site knows you’re watching, but if you’re looking from a different location each time, to the website you look like a different person, so the price won’t inflate as quickly.

I don’t think that ADHD “gets better” when people grow up. I think that life and circumstances change, and change affects ADHD. But this is a problem with neurodevelopment and brain chemistry, it doesn’t magically go away.

That being said, it sounds to me like you might not be medicated. That’s ok, if that’s your choice, but know that medication is the single most effective treatment for ADHD that exists right now. On its own, it’s not enough, but without it, shit gets real. Dr. Barkley has some great informative videos that really help to explain how ADHD works in our brains, and the role of medication. So. In that regard, I suggest you reach out to your doctor.

Smaller things that might help though, I always find that if I really need to concentrate, or if I really need to get something done, voices distract me (podcasts, videos, anything where someone is talking). So, I will listen to music instead, particularly music without lyrics. Lo-fi works well for this for me, or piano music, or whatever. I just try to keep the lyrics (voices) to a minimum, and it seems to help.

Something else that helps when I really need to focus is a fidget toy in one hand (give your mind monkey a banana) while I read/learn/concentrate. It’s such a small thing, but it helps SO MUCH!

Good luck, hopefully these work for you!

Goblin tools will break stuff down into small steps, it’s super handy.

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I’m still waiting for that magical day, too.

Didn’t make it through the wall of text. Shame, it looked interesting.

I know it’s yikes. It felt icky to write it out, but I did because its true. It’s well documented that women are far more likely to be “running the house” even when working full time. So many articles, podcasts, and books have been written about it. There’s even a comic floating around the internet. (https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/)

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_an_unfair_division_of_labor_hurts_your_relationship

Guess I won’t be sleeping tonight. Thanks for that.

So much this. Working all day is exhausting. So is keeping the house. Having to do both all of the time when you have an able-bodied partner? Gross. No one wants an adult child as a partner.

Men have no idea just how exhausting it is to have to carry all of that weight. Well, some do, I’m sure. I haven’t met any, personally, but that doesn’t mean they’re not out there.

Having a partner that is an actual partner gives you the room to breathe and relax. And honestly, that is the real turn on.

Kittens are good. Maybe some BBC stuff? Get her into the nature shows. Damn near anything on BBC Earth should be great for that.

Diy building stuff: Simone Goertz is awesome, as is Laura Kampf.

For some super chill diy, check out SteadyCraftin

ClickSpring builds super cool old shit and is just beautiful to watch.

Either The Action Lab or Steve Mould should work for understanding science.

For fun experiments and sciencey things, Mark Rober is entertaining.

Want something food related? I’ve heard good things about Tasting History (Max Miller), haven’t checked him out myself, though. Or James Hoffman does a great show all about coffee.

Does she knit or crochet? There are hundreds of channels about yarny things - Tiny Fiber Studios does stuff like that.

Or maybe she likes other things. Sashiko Story teaches the art of sashiko (Japanese embroidery). The Violet Unicorn teaches weaving.

How about music? Tim Reynolds is incredible, as is Marcin.

Huh. Imma try that next time. Thanks!

I will try to envision me using that object, and mime putting it down when I’m done with it. Sometimes that’s enough to trigger the memory of where I left it.

Maybe you’re there to help the Mormon cricket refugees deconvert?