It could be, but from my personal experience, nothing sexier than a person who can take care of shit that needs to be taken care of. You don’t know how many men don’t do this and how many women enable it by tolerating it. It’s a complete turn off when I find out a dude can’t and expects me to pick up the slack
I’ve known many women who claim something like this. Even if true, every one of them would drop their drawers for a lead guitarist living out of his car. So you know, there’s all types of sexy
You should read The Five Love Languages. This is an actual thing. Different people express and receive love differently. “Acts of Kindness” is one of them. My partner loves when i do things, and i know this, so i do it because i know it makes her feel loved. And that’s hot.
I actually just listened to that episode yesterday, that whole show is pretty great (also, the one author’s other podcast - 5-4 (“a podcast about how much the supreme court sucks”) - is consistently amazing), but for anybody out there who doesn’t do podcasts and wants a summary,
tl;dl All the good ideas in it were stolen from other places and the author is a secret fundamentalist who thinks women need to get back in the kitchen and gay people need to get back in the closet. For example, this Q & A article from 2013
Q: “My son has recently told us that he is gay. I’m having a very hard time dealing with it. How can I help him with this and still show love?”
Gary Chapman: Disappointment is a common emotion when a parent hears one of their children indicate that he/she is gay. Men and women are made for each other—it is God’s design. Anything other than that is outside of that primary design of God. Now I’m not going to try explain all the ins and outs of homosexuality, but what I will say is this—we love our children no matter what. Express your disappointment and/or your lack of understanding, but make it clear that you love them and that you will continue to love them no matter what. I would also encourage you to ask your child to do some serious reading and/or talk to a counselor to try to understand him/herself better while continuing to affirm your love.
For the episode on the book, Shamshiri went back to the original ’90s text, which contains, among other debunked gender stereotypes, an assertion in the “Physical Touch” chapter that men want sex all the time, whereas women need emotional connection for intimacy to be satisfying. (Nowhere in Chapman’s books is any attention paid to the romantic dynamics of queer couples—at one point, Shamshiri jokes that such relationships are “like the female orgasm, not discussed or implied.”) In one chapter, a woman tells Chapman that her husband verbally berates her and refuses counseling. Chapman, in the 1992 version, suggests that the husband’s love language is physical touch and counsels the wife to start initiating sex frequently and more aggressively. When she balks because sex with him makes her feel used and unloved, he advises her to draw upon Jesus’s Sermon on the Mount in order to gather strength. In the anecdote that appears in later editions, Shamshiri mentions, Chapman simply suggests that the wife be more physically affectionate in general. Although the sexual mandate is less explicit there, the idea that sex is a sacrifice that women must endure in heterosexual marriage persists.
tl;dl All the good ideas in it were stolen from other places and the author is a secret fundamentalist who thinks women need to get back in the kitchen and gay people need to get back in the closet. For example, [this Q & A article from 2013]
I missed this part and was wondering to myself wtf you were on about!
I was hoping someone would bring up love languages! As someone who speaks gift giving and acts of service, when someone does something for me or gives me a truly thoughtful gift for me I adore it. On the other hand if I don’t see those languages spoken, it makes me feel as though I’m not thought about as much as those I love and it can breed resentfulness.
It’s an actual thing. It’s what ‘providing’ is. Some people think, providing for a partner is bringing home money. But our monkey brain doesn’t even know what money is, since money is a new thing that bears no relevancy in biology.
Providing is making a good, livable and clean nest for your partner. Makes the monkey brain want to produce offspring to fill the clean nest.
Unironically, maybe not as a first date but a car wash date sounds pretty unique and hilarious enough to make an impression. Just make sure your date does not get bored, so put on an interesting show for them to keep them engaged.
Both is the answer. You do look hot doing chores. Also chores done is a turn on. It’s like oysters and chocolate, but your house is tidy and it’s not gross.
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You wanna be hot or not?
It could be, but from my personal experience, nothing sexier than a person who can take care of shit that needs to be taken care of. You don’t know how many men don’t do this and how many women enable it by tolerating it. It’s a complete turn off when I find out a dude can’t and expects me to pick up the slack
I think the answer is just yes
Let’s be honest she’s trying to get some and your oblivious. Wake up and read the room 😁😁
No, it’s my oblivious, don’t try and take that from me.
Yes
Just say you feel the same way when she does chores
I’ve known many women who claim something like this. Even if true, every one of them would drop their drawers for a lead guitarist living out of his car. So you know, there’s all types of sexy
If he’s living out of his car, she doesn’t need to clear up after him. Do keep up.
You should read The Five Love Languages. This is an actual thing. Different people express and receive love differently. “Acts of Kindness” is one of them. My partner loves when i do things, and i know this, so i do it because i know it makes her feel loved. And that’s hot.
If Books Could Kill did a good podcast about The Five Love Languages: https://www.stitcher.com/show/if-books-could-kill/episode/the-5-love-languages-302265819
I actually just listened to that episode yesterday, that whole show is pretty great (also, the one author’s other podcast - 5-4 (“a podcast about how much the supreme court sucks”) - is consistently amazing), but for anybody out there who doesn’t do podcasts and wants a summary,
tl;dl All the good ideas in it were stolen from other places and the author is a secret fundamentalist who thinks women need to get back in the kitchen and gay people need to get back in the closet. For example, this Q & A article from 2013
Also, from this review of the podcast
I missed this part and was wondering to myself wtf you were on about!
I was hoping someone would bring up love languages! As someone who speaks gift giving and acts of service, when someone does something for me or gives me a truly thoughtful gift for me I adore it. On the other hand if I don’t see those languages spoken, it makes me feel as though I’m not thought about as much as those I love and it can breed resentfulness.
Cane here to say this. 100% this.
My girlfriend said when I washed a bowl earlier it was the sexiest thing she’s ever seen.
Did she attempt to jump your bones?
It’s an actual thing. It’s what ‘providing’ is. Some people think, providing for a partner is bringing home money. But our monkey brain doesn’t even know what money is, since money is a new thing that bears no relevancy in biology.
Providing is making a good, livable and clean nest for your partner. Makes the monkey brain want to produce offspring to fill the clean nest.
Gonna go take any, if I even get them, future dates to a car wash and wash eh hell out of cars. Or bring them home and just clean.
Unironically, maybe not as a first date but a car wash date sounds pretty unique and hilarious enough to make an impression. Just make sure your date does not get bored, so put on an interesting show for them to keep them engaged.
Take it from me, men who do chores around the house are so hot.
So are men who buy tickets to “Barbie”.
Will do :)
Sending positive Kenergy
What is bigger turn on, buying 5 suicide squad dvds or 2 tickets to Barbie?
Whichever one pays more of my morgage.
Well, there’s this book:
https://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/08/15/book-of-womens-fantasy-men-doing-chores/
Both is the answer. You do look hot doing chores. Also chores done is a turn on. It’s like oysters and chocolate, but your house is tidy and it’s not gross.
If it is a trick, they’re all in on it. As a joke I sent my wife a picture of me scrubbing the tub without a shirt on.
Didn’t realize the effect it would have.
Well it worked for Putin…
He only fished and rode a horse, imagine what would happen if he was scrubbing the tub…