When you’re at work, do you ever find yourself fantasizing and being hyper motivated about being home to continue THAT thing you’re really excited about or should be doing. But then once you get home all motivation evaporates and you end up doing nothing and feeling guilty about it?
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Duh this happens to me all the time.
Yup. And then when I’m off the clock, I feel guilty about all the work I procrastinated during the workday, feeling amped up to tackle my assigned work the next day. Then the cycle repeats. Brain can’t enjoy the thing right in front of it.
The train ride home just kills it. I eat. I clean. I sleep.
Yep. Whatever project seems more interesting than what I’m doing at work, but less interesting once I get home and have options.
Daily
Every single time
Just so you know, this isn’t just an ADHD thing.
Most folk experience it and it’s one of the main causes of burnout.
That said, it’s always worth checking that you are getting enough vitamin d and that your thyroid is working right.
You know, I’ve always heard people talk about burnout, but what exactly is it/feel like?
Same thing for brain fog.
I struggle immensely to stay awake when I get home and usually pass out for a couple hours. Which sucks cause then there’s not a lot I can do with the day
That. That sounds like it, coupled with frustration and feeling a bit overwhelmed.
It is cool to be exhausted after work if it fullfills you and you enjoy it, but most folk need the gaps between to be themselves.
Ahhh well, thank you for the clarification. It’s good to understand it so I can recognize it myself. I’m notoriously bad at self analysis with those types of things.
It’s not your fault, these things sneak up on us, and it’s not part of most people’s education. I don’t think learned to be even halfway introspective until much later in life. And that only because I started keeping a diary and noticing things like “huh my entries are really dark when I’ve been drinking the previous today.”
Yeah, I didn’t recognize what anxiety was until a medication gave me a panic attack. I’ve been able to recognize it since. Due to my upbringing I’m probably further behind than most in that respect so I’ve taken it upon myself to try and catch up.
Sometimes I get obsessed with something at work, an issue or something that I can’t get to work and sometimes I continue what I was doing when I get home, depending on how tired and frustrated I am.
I work in IT.
I feel this in my soul.
This doesnt exactly translate to your experience bc I am a student but last semester I took two upper level math courses and because of how much homework I was doing in those classes and how interesting I found the subject to be, I would end up seeing and thinking about that math until I fell asleep those nights. I dreamed about fucking math 😭. I would go to my girlfriends house an hour after finishing my homework and in the middle of hanging out I would have to stop and go finish a problem I was trying to solve before but couldn’t because I just had a new idea
I still do this too, but I try really hard to resist the urge, because it rarely leads anywhere good
Yes, all the time
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Turns out this is called “I’d do any chore but work”.
Yes totally, i can’t even enjoy video games anymore because the entire time there’s this little voice in the back of my head that says “you’re wasting your life”
Couple that with the steam library syndrome. Too much choice is no choice.
Do I ever? Lol I do nothing but. That’s my entire life.
Pretty much every day. I think it’s because we have a limited capacity and for many of us our job requires us to mask to some degree and it just takes all of our energy, even if it isn’t physically or even intellectually demanding. There’s no reason I should feel completely drained and demotivated by just sending emails, but it is what it is.
I try to go somewhere quiet and lay on the floor or something. Or literally touch grass - get feet in the dirt, listen to the wind in the trees, that sort of thing. And stay away from screens for a bit. I’m still trying to find ways to help regulate my nervous system since I need different things on different days but those are some of the most effective for me.
I do, but I’ve gotten better at it. More often than not I just struggle to get started. So just forcing myself to get started results in actually doing what I wanted to do. Sometimes I’m just exhausted, and I accept that I’m just gonna “waste” the evening with video games or something. Rather have some enjoyment than nothing.
That being said, I’m still learning to be better. I’m still too judgemental and unrealistic to myself
So much so. It’s so debilitating sometimes too. I’ll focus and stew on not doing the thing I wanna do. And end up just idling and doing nothing.