When you’re at work, do you ever find yourself fantasizing and being hyper motivated about being home to continue THAT thing you’re really excited about or should be doing. But then once you get home all motivation evaporates and you end up doing nothing and feeling guilty about it?
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Sometimes I get obsessed with something at work, an issue or something that I can’t get to work and sometimes I continue what I was doing when I get home, depending on how tired and frustrated I am.
I work in IT.
I feel this in my soul.
This doesnt exactly translate to your experience bc I am a student but last semester I took two upper level math courses and because of how much homework I was doing in those classes and how interesting I found the subject to be, I would end up seeing and thinking about that math until I fell asleep those nights. I dreamed about fucking math 😭. I would go to my girlfriends house an hour after finishing my homework and in the middle of hanging out I would have to stop and go finish a problem I was trying to solve before but couldn’t because I just had a new idea
I still do this too, but I try really hard to resist the urge, because it rarely leads anywhere good
Every day bud, every day
I’ve come to terms with it, it doesn’t upset me like it used to, but I think that’s mostly because what I do for work makes me happy. If it’s not that it’s probably work brings such exhaustion that im to tired to care 😅
I spent 8 hours ripping out old beverage lines from a boat, tomorrow I get to install all new lines, setup 4 bars and rodent “proof” them
The train ride home just kills it. I eat. I clean. I sleep.
Yes, and I used to get right to it and do it guilt free, but the negative association with having those things punished as a child and teen made it harder to enjoy things permanently. I think paradigms for raising kids right now kind of do this to kids that get fixated on stuff. There’s gotta be a way to nurture the deep enjoyment of things and still get the kid to eat and sleep and go to school (which is also broken and might make the whole thing harder to fix).
This hit way too hard. I find it so hard to just enjoy my hobbies because I feel like I’m breaking the rules.
ALWAYS. Maybe you have ADHD. Weed helps me IMMENSELY with that.
“maybe you have adhd”
Please check the sub name. Lol
What better proof that they know what they’re talking about?
I find that on the contrary, alcohol helps me feel more relaxed and feel less guilty and eventually just do stuff without overthinking it.
I love that you didn’t realize the community you were in
lol, I just realized, haha
Can I ask in which way it helps? Or perhaps, what in particular it helps with? For example, the “feeling guilty” part is very different from “motivation evaporates”, but remedying either, or something else entirely, can be considered helping.
I have the complete opposite experience. Weed removes the guilt of not doing anything, but it usually leads to me doing nothing.
I enjoy weed occasionally because it turns off that hyper critical voice in my head, but it absolutely isn’t a magic motivation medicine for most people.
After using pretty heavily last year and taking a break, I’ve realized that the overall effect is fairly negative, because it just makes me way too ok with doing nothing. Sometimes I need to do nothing and take a break, and it’s great for helping me do that, but for me personally, it’s a major negative when I’m doing it regularly.
Obviously your experience is different (as is everyone’s a little) so feel free to try it, just keep in mind that it can get very easy to get addicted to that “mellow brain” feeling until you realize that all progress on all of your goals have stalled out because it’s easy to just be high all afternoon and evening. There are lots of people who can be motivated and productive while high, but I think I’ve determined that I’m not one of them.
It makes that motivation that evaporated return. And it returns even stronger (like way stronger) than when I initially had it sober.
Yes totally, i can’t even enjoy video games anymore because the entire time there’s this little voice in the back of my head that says “you’re wasting your life”
Couple that with the steam library syndrome. Too much choice is no choice.
So much so. It’s so debilitating sometimes too. I’ll focus and stew on not doing the thing I wanna do. And end up just idling and doing nothing.
Daily
Speaking of work, do you guys ever start a new work project with full focus, then if for some reason you’re ahead of schedule, you lose it all, until you’re late and sometimes too late ?
It happens often and makes me feel incompetent in a position I know I’m capable.
Yup. And then when I’m off the clock, I feel guilty about all the work I procrastinated during the workday, feeling amped up to tackle my assigned work the next day. Then the cycle repeats. Brain can’t enjoy the thing right in front of it.
Turns out this is called “I’d do any chore but work”.
Yes, all the time
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Yep. Whatever project seems more interesting than what I’m doing at work, but less interesting once I get home and have options.
Do I ever? Lol I do nothing but. That’s my entire life.
Pretty much every day. I think it’s because we have a limited capacity and for many of us our job requires us to mask to some degree and it just takes all of our energy, even if it isn’t physically or even intellectually demanding. There’s no reason I should feel completely drained and demotivated by just sending emails, but it is what it is.
I try to go somewhere quiet and lay on the floor or something. Or literally touch grass - get feet in the dirt, listen to the wind in the trees, that sort of thing. And stay away from screens for a bit. I’m still trying to find ways to help regulate my nervous system since I need different things on different days but those are some of the most effective for me.