What do you mean by, “should?” Why do you think mods owe the community something?

Do admins, who not only put effort but actual money and other personal resources into providing a server, owe something to their mods? Or do WE owe our admins?

In other situations, mass bans sometimes happen because it’s easier. Moderators often use custom scripts they’ve written to ease the administration burden. Personally, I don’t even provide a reason for bans, its just one more field to fill, and for the benefit of someone disruptive or acting in bad faith? Why bother.

Moderators don’t owe anyone anything. If you don’t like a mod, it costs you nothing to spin up another community. Hell, if you do it on another instance, you can even have the same name, and with crosspost merging apparently coming to this corner of fedi, it makes even less difference.

what did i just say motherfucker

Do you even realize you just disqualified yourself from productive discussion

Unless that’s evasive sarcasm, I don’t know what it means.

Sunshine has an actual identity off of Lemmy. I don’t know them, but I’ve seen them elsewhere. They are by appearance a real person. Perhaps you know otherwise.

The only thing that connects Sunshine to Beaver that I know about is that one started posting (with an entirely different editorial voice) shortly after the other was harassed off the site. Perhaps you know better.

But if you don’t know otherwise and you don’t know better, I think you’re talking bullshit.

Signed: someone previously accused of being a Beaver alt, and de-modded and banned on that lie. Don’t worry, they figured it out. Figure it out.

How?

Can you please elaborate on, “by my understanding”

First I would like to say that homicide or even violence are not valid expressions of antinatalism. I have to confess I share some similar views to those expressed (but apparently not fully embraced or informed by compassion) by the bomber, which makes this all the more disturbing to me. I find myself wanting to advocate, not for the bomber, but for some of his views, and that’s a hard distinction for people to make sometimes. I also want to offer people some insight into what he might have felt and thought by providing context for some of the seemingly radical things he said, because I think most people should be able to understand his point of view if they wish, whether or not they agree with it. But you might not want to relate to a terrorist, and I don’t want to engage if it makes you feel invalidated or challenged. Particularly since you may find his views to be anti-trans and dangerous.

Is it something you’re interested in discussing further?

I agree. Last year a very confused man in my community went into a gender studies class in a University and stabbed the professor and two students (all survived). My partner is transgender at another school in town and I am… weirdgender. He was not a radicalized right winger, he was just disturbed and confused, and there is just so much fucking ambient hatred, it affects people who otherwise wouldn’t even give a shit about any of it.

Not to quibble but it’s not just “were treated”. If you want to be killed by a cop, it helps to be First Nations.

The Buddha teaches even more universal oneness than merely unity with other humans. Some who meditate are able to achieve ego death.

No, you’re not. This is from whence comes our responsibility to our children. You owe them everything because creation is such a violent, dangerous act, committed on someone without consent, with unlimited potential for consequential suffering. You’re not supposed to “forget about it” and pretend you never did that, you’re supposed to pay your fucking debt or not incur it in the first place.

And it does not matter if you create a baby or a puppy or a piglet. The animals we create are morally entitled to the exact same love and protection as our own children. People are easily able to forget all about that. And they are able to forget about their debt to their actual children just as fast. Which is why many people advocate against human reproduction. There is nothing worse to a social creature than being created when they are not wanted and loved.

That only makes things less clear for me.

Sorry, what did this guy do that you think merited an admin taking a community away from its own mod?

Please share if you find something but don’t go out of your way.

I don’t see how “something I love about” necessarily implies that they also love other things, it could easily be read as only a sarcastic appreciation.

It could be said that way, yes. There is an ambiguity. But usually it is used to indicate specifically that it isn’t the sole factor. I’m not saying he’s being an effective ally, or even that he’s trying to be an ally. I just think you misinterpreted to say his views on transgender people are solely based in rebellion against nature and tradition.

I’m sorry it’s hurtful to you, in any case. I am also very disturbed.

Many of the trans people I know struggle with their dichotomous nature. They don’t necessarily see their natural body as something to be celebrated. I know that is far from universal among trans people but it’s something people often see from outside the culture looking in.

He was on Lemmy for a short time two years ago.

I wouldn’t dare try to interpret what you mean by that, but someone else might make dire assumptions.

Most Saturdays, Abdallah and his staff are flitting between patient rooms and laboratories, sterilizing equipment, checking on growing embryos and walking hopeful parents through the arduous process of in vitro fertilization.

But through a series of inexplicable events, the clinic was completely empty on Saturday when the car exploded outside.

Abdallah had spontaneously decided to visit family. Two other weekend employees had been called away. And the clinic, just days before, had rescheduled a procedure that would have required 12 employees to be in the office at the time of the explosion.

https://www.cnn.com/2025/05/20/us/palm-springs-clinic-bombing-fertility-clinic-explosion

It’s always monstrous when people turn to violence for their imagined greater good. It’s so easy to misunderstand one’s own motivations. This is so undermining to his own supposed goals.

I notice that the clinic advertises that it is closed Saturday. One could wonder if he thought there were nothing but embryos inside. But you can’t create a detonation that tears apart an entire building and damages others, and not be aware that people might die.

Yes, this is confusing. It doesn’t appear to align with other values he expresses. Maybe he needed to see his death as heroic and was willing to twist things to be able to see it that way. Maybe he didn’t believe he was putting others at risk; I haven’t managed to research the details of the event yet.

Still, quite a wild statement to “despise nature” though.

I think it requires privilege not to despise nature.

Not “because of”. You have read that into the text, which actually says, “Something I love about…” which is also how someone might talk about an unexpected benefit they discover about something they already love.

It was a suicide. That’s all. The rest of the stuff drawn from his philosophy was what he used to rationalize his own suicide to himself. It wasn’t the actual reason he killed himself, it was just how he motivated himself to go through with it.

He’s an antinatalist!

It’s a fucked up world.

You have been banned from /r/Pyongyang

I hope Beaver is happy and well.

“Your letter was too long, it must be lies.”

“I had a lot to say, it was hard to make it short.”

“Your letter is too short, it must be lies.”

“???”

I’d also add that posts like this are not how a person effectively supports their friend through Internet drama. Actually, it’s extremely counterproductive. Rather, this is how someone addicted to the drama behaves.

If people cannot understand your experience, it’s not because you are trans and they are cis. There is no universal trans experience and you still need to work to make yourself understood to other trans people, who have entirely different experiences from your own. People have the capacity to understand things outside their direct experience. Some people go 40 years thinking of themselves as cis, and then change their mind!

Strangers on the Internet don’t owe you jack just because you send them a DM.

Honestly, therapy is an almost necessary part of gender-affirming care. It doesn’t just prepare you or help you go through it, it’s fully part of it.

The principle medical reason for gender affirming care is that it SAVES LIVES. We have statistics on how often and severely people experience regret and we know it is not a significant factor. You’re talking about outliers. Not everyone has access to counseling. We can deal with X number of people with regrets if it means X*Y (for some reasonable Y) people don’t actually die.

Presumably you believe that anyone with a uterus should be permitted to have a child without first receiving counseling on how it is going to potentially destroy their body from the hormone exposure alone. What is the meaningful difference?

Bold thing to assume on Lemmy.

Certainly, everyone who is thinking of transitioning should have access to counseling. My partner is in this stage and it has been vital for them. I hate to think of people trying to go through it alone, without professional guidance.

Sorry, I did what? “All of my accounts?” Do I know you?

I DID receive a message from Beaver a day before the other moderator went wild with power, stating her intentions to perform a three day moderation blitz where things would be extra strict. Due to the limitations of the medium we’re working in, I don’t know if anyone replied to that, but it hasn’t been mentioned. According to the evidence I have, Beaver was trying to communicate and the other moderator was not.

I note that Beaver has now left the site completely, probably due to the dog piling and bullying. So, job well done. You made people unhappy. Good work, the Internet is safe once again.

If Beaver committed some kind of moderator offense by not responding in the second moderator’s unstated timeframe, then surely that second moderator committed an equal offense by demodding THREE moderators without consulting anyone else. No one even knew that this was up his ass before he went nuclear. I don’t know how you all can look at this and say it is anything less than a transparent coup.