My ND NT husband will just like, play a game every once in a while when he feels like it. He’ll just pick it up every so often, maybe play a few days in a week, and then leave it be again for a while to come back to later.
Meanwhile I will get into a game and spend every waking hour playing it. My sleep, diet, work, hygiene, all suffer to varying degrees. I give myself wrist pain and thumb calluses. I will not rest until I 100% it. And if I can’t, I’ll stop and most likely never pick it up again.
Anyway, anyone else playing Silksong?
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I made a rule where I can only play one game at a time. It helps keep me on track between times not playing games, which is fairly often. Makes it easy enough.
When I play a game there is a 80% chance I almost never touch it again but a 20% chance I get every achievement and hundreds of hours within a month
Lol why is this so relatable. All or nothing
This is me.
Same. And I haven’t stuck on a 20%er for a while which kinda bums me out!
My last one was Baldur’s Gate III so its been a while for me too 😔
It’s either obsession or bust for me. But that’s with everything in life almost.
Currently obsessed with silk song too. But then it could end any second.
I didn’t game any video for almost two years prior. Like at all. Excitement suddenly gone.
I went into board games and trading cards instead. It’s really annoying sometimes to lose interest after so much investment of time and money and emotion.
Brain is weird man.
I don’t care to aim for 100% in games, but I’ll put it this way: I found wuthering waves 2ish months ago and already have 300 hours in it…
I can’t speak for everyone, but I absolutely do not play videogames like a normal person. I play videogames like a squirrel hoarding nuts for winter. I play videogames like the red-string-and-photos corkboard meme. I play videogames like I was assembling a sand mandala in the middle of a crowded lobby. I play videogames like the movie Memento. I play videogames like I was juggling ventriloquist dummies while chugging a liter of sparkling water and reciting Modern Major General at speed.
I can’t speak for everyone, but I absolutely do not play videogames like a normal person.
I feel so seen
If I never had kids, I’d be right there with you.
I had to get in the habit of waiting for specified times (after bedtime/weekend mornings) to play games.
Oh, and it’s Borderlands this weekend for me.
Thank yo for the reminder I’m pumped all of the sudden lmao.
And a lot of the times at the end of the day I want to put my feet up, so I just play something casual on my phone
Factorio was the last game that truly grabbed me by the short-and-curlies. At my worst, I was playing for 8-10 hours a day (with a full time job taking another 9 hours) and started seeing conveyor belt designs in my dreams.
Yo I called in sick to work today after I posted this and put in an 8 hour shift on Silksong instead aaaah
My NT husband switches between games. In one sitting. I look up from drawing evey once in a while and, wtf since when is Mario in Ass Creed? Not that he doesn’t like the game, he always comes back to it after a while and finishes most of what he plays. He just gets bored after a bit and loads up another one. And they tell me I have attention issues.
When I start a game, I either drop it after one sitting or I am 150% in (and sometimes I get so deep into a game that I stop playing shortly before the end because I don’t want it to end - fuck this brain (I need to finish Cyberpunk 2077)). I actively avoid certain games because I know they’ll eat me. Instead I’ll sit and draw for 37 hours a day without needing sustenance or the loo, which is much more healthy and socially accepted and even encouraged by my therapist.
I stop at about ~80% completion on my favorite games for this reason EXACTLY. Like my logic brain says “finish” and my ADHD/attachment refuses outright.
This is why I avoid MMOs. Several years ago I picked up one again and ended up accumulating over 1000 hours over several months. And I didn’t even play the main story for the most part. I remember clan members’ reaction: “wtf, how have you not finished the story after so many hours played”. The only reason I stopped literally over night was because I had something traumatic happen to me the following morning that fucked my life up for good. It quite literally required a life-changing event to shake me out of it.
I don’t personally care about achievement hunting or 100%-ing games, but otherwise I am exactly the same yes. If a game piques my interest it becomes a hyperfixation that consumes every waking hour, and I will spend as much free time as possible either playing it, watching others play it, watching videos about it, or reading things about it.
I also don’t really understand people who are juggling multiple games at a time. “Oh, today I’ll play some X, tomorrow I’ll play some Y and over the weekend I’ll enjoy some Z!”. Sounds completely foreign and bizarre to me. I have my current game, and if I’m playing a game I’ll be playing my current game. Who has the bandwidth to keep track of multiple games at once?
I usually only play games becazse they are either fun or interesting.
I also don’t understand the playing of multiple games instead of focusing on one but playing it less frequently to avoid fatique.
What I do understand is playing a “brain-off” game and switching to a game that requires attention (e.g. due to a good story)
I don’t even enjoy playing them but I keep doing it. I feel guilty or that I’m wasting my time. I get tired of being me.
You can be me for awhile if you want, but it would be a lateral move. At least the scenery would be different?
Real talk: consider talking to a therapist. This sounds like depression, possibly serious and chronic.
Source: waves at you while walking beside you on the road of life
Thanks, but I’ve been in therapy for 5 years now. Cptsd but depression comes along with it. I appreciate the concern though. I hope your walk is as easy and fulfilling as it can be.
Some similar circumstances myself. Keep your chin up, friend. ❤️
Two sides come to mind:
Remember that productivity is at its peak with life satisfaction as well; we need relaxation and breaks, even if they must be scheduled at times, to maintain long-term productivity. We’re not emotionless robots.
On the other hand, it’s totally fine to feel phases when gaming isn’t currently for you. Digging into a skill-based craft (pottery, cooking, music-making, etc.), exercising while watching TV & film, or even writing scripts is all fine as well, if not maybe even preferable. For me, I went through a time when the majority of my gaming was casual, turn-based, multiplayer board games with friends over voice chat, mostly just to have fun with and catch up with said friends almost more than the actual games (which include a range of both co-op and competitive titles). I’ve also generally gotten hyper-picky with games and how I spend my time; Lemmy posts are just as interesting as many games, or tinkering with the programs Espanso, Syncthing, etc. There is nothing wrong with leaving gaming due to a lack of personal interest, even if you were a hardcore gamer before or whatever. I can’t even visit my favorites from before, but I find immense joy in watching a friend play through any of them for their first time. There are all sorts of things we can do in life outside of our own direct playing of games. Some even get wanderlust and fly abroad… those weirdos (lol jk).
If this has been going on for a while, and the above mindsets don’t make a dent, it sounds like a trip carefully planned and actively supervised by a veteran psychonaut may be worthwhile. 🍄
This is why I love the sims, I get obsessed for x amount of time. I go to work if I have to, but then I’ll play sims every other second I can, I’ll even bring the laptop into the bathroom with me. Won’t sleep, won’t cook, won’t shower, etc. And then… all of a sudden, mid game even, I’m just… done. For months. Or years. And it’s a sandbox game, it’s literally digital barbies, so I can just stop and start over with a whole new game later. If im playing a more traditional game, I NEED to 100% it. I NEED a walk through to make sure I don’t make any wrong choices, it almost takes some of the fun out of it, so I don’t play those kinds that often (my roommate recently let me play Spiritfarer on her console, she had 40hrs and 98% and was like "its not important to the story and i cant find the last one… I got to 100% after 84 hours. We are not the same)
You should probably stay away from Rimworld then lol
LMAO I knew for a fact this about silksong, and yes I got hooked on that game very similarly too you
I rarely have the discipline to actually 100% anything, but I do play with that goal and tend to hyperfocus on games, often to my detriment. Not every game though. Sometimes it’ll be months until another game really grabs me, and maybe I’m playing stuff more casually in between. Also I tend to go back to old favorites a lot.
For example I finally picked up Horizon: Forbidden West and for the first time in years even my favorite archaeology channels have unwatched content. My 4am bedtime is not great and last week someone at work asked me if I forgot to brush my chompers. But before that it was a 3rd or 4th playthrough of Witcher 3.
I don’t get like this with every game, but yeah that’s how Silksong has been for me.
Hah, the same here. That’s why recently I’m avoiding playing videogames at all.