This is a good point and got me thinking of something that would be a better example. I understand the point that it’s because they don’t really care about some corporation without a face collecting their info, which is different from you who they personally know asking them to unlock their phone and give it to you.
Maybe a good example would be their baby monitor or home camera? Let them know that anyone on the internet can tap into their camera feed because those companies don’t lock them down. Not that anyone is looking at it, but anyone could if they wanted to. Would that be a more convincing argument to ask if they are fine with that since they have nothing to hide?
Federation works a little differently. Having said that, it’s not too far from reddit either. For example on reddit, as a basketball fan, I visit r/nba often. But then there are also other subs like r/nbadiscussion, r/nbatalk, and other subs that have overlapping content as r/nba. That’s the same case here, except they are on different instances rather than subreddits. You can do the same as what you do on reddit and subscribe to the most popular instance community and that’s it. Eventually as time goes by, the most popular community will become the “default” so you won’t really miss out on content. If you really have FOMO, then subscribe to all of them; same as what you would do on reddit; but obviously you don’t do that right?
As a teenager or young adult, maybe. But as you grow older less so. Adding someone on social media has never really been brought up in my current social circles. Sure the occasional linkedin invite if it’s in a professional setting, but my current group of acquaintances hasn’t really thought about adding each other on every social media platform or exchanged contacts other than phone numbers.
Is that the reason the other guy is now a former coworker?