Buy a men’s thong and make sure she finds out about it. Strongly hint that you will use it for the next sexy time. If that doesn’t prompt her to wear hers, at least you get to wear a thong.
Yep, actually, have worn female underwear from a friend (we were at a festival, I forgot all of my underwear at home, so I had to handwash the only pair I had and then dry them on the tent in the sun… meanwhile, wearing her panties 😂), so yeah, I know they can be uncomortable… I just kept switching my dick and balls from left to right, had no idea where to place them, they kept comming out from the sides, people laughed 😂 (most knew I was wearing women’s underwear).
Most sexy lingerie is very uncomfortable to wear and super expensive. If it’s only for sexy time, it might not be worth it for her. If it really bothers you, talk to her but please accept it if she doesn’t want to. Some women don’t feel comfortable in lingerie and that kind of defeats the purpose as well.
Oh please, she couldn’t do it not once, not one time, and we’ve been together for over 15 years 😒. She’s just lazy, I know it… she thinks if she can deepthroat that that’s all there is to it, just gobble it up, he’s a happy guy… having burgers every singled day will make you sick of them, no matter how much you like burgers.
She doesn’t even put in any effort any more, I don’t know why I even have sex with her… to be honest, I rarely feel like it, I just don’t feel arroused.
then maybe talk to her about trying new things and that repetitiveness is unsettling
maybe bring some ideas where she can decide at least part of it
maybe you are long enough together that you already did everything so you could refresh old stuff
or you could buy the lingerie or toys and say that you would like to test them out
maybe she does not notice how much it annoys you and she may has less fun too so she only does the nessesary
and if worst comes: you could make an somewhat polygam relationship (with lots of communications) where you booth allow cheating from time to time, but that definetly needs your partners consent
Edit: because of the long time without sexy underwear and (i put words in your mouth that could be untrue) that you never asked makes her think it is not important
Edit2: brainless thought -> she may would like it too if you are in some sexy underwear
There was a lot of talking done from my side, it never ammounted to anything… she’s probably in menopause now (we’re not that old, I’m 38, she’s 39) cuz I haven’t seen her buy any pads in about a year.
She gets to decide everything anyhow, when where, how. We haven’t had sex in about a year now, since I fuckin’ gave up initiating anything after being rejected time after time. She seems fine with that… she hasn’t initiated anything thus far, and I just masturbate… which is getting kinda annoying to be honest… I can really see why people start cheating now.
Plus, she’s like 300 lbs now… yeah, she was always fat, but not obese. She knows it’s not healthy, we’ve hired nutricionists, spent god knows how much on them, she does the diet about a month and then just gives up “fuck, too many cucumbers, olives, whatever in this diet, I just can’t take it! it tastes like shit! i give up!” 😒. I’m just really at a point where I don’t even give AF. I just take care of our kid (cuz she sure as hell can’t with that weight on her) and that’s about it.
We’ve used toys before, I am all up for that, in fact, toys were my idea, but she pisses herself now verry often (like even when sitting or coughing) and she blames the toys (they are large, not giant, but larger than what a normal penis would look like) for her pissing on herself (it’s the weight… she knows it, and I do as well, but she won’t admit it 😒), so, toys are a no go for about 2 years now.
I can tell she has less fun, she just goes through the motions. Last time that happened (us having sex) was about a year ago. When I noticed that, I said to myself, this is the last fucking time, this shit is not what I signed up for! Great head does not compensate for having a living corpse in bed and having to use lubricants to get you wet! Fuck this!
I have talked to her about this, she either denies it completely or admits a small portion of it, and then blames me for not getting her in the mood… what in the AF am I supposed to do, I have litelarly tried everything there is, scented candles, weed, loooong foreplays, music, dinner before it all, combos of all of the above and other things as well… I just gave up, I don’t have the strength or the energy on top of everything else (work, taking care of the kid, taking care of the household, cuz she doesn’t do shit around the appartment, except cook from time to time, I do everything else - vacuum, clean bathroom/toalets, fix shit, fix the car, rearange things if needed, etc.)… I just can’t, I worn out 😞.
About the last part, I have no objection to wearing sexy underwear, but she has to say that… I can’t pull every word out of her mouth with pliers.
then sorry for my comment. I did not see how much you already done and how irresponsible she is at least to raising her child what i think is the bare minimum contribution to a relationship. (there i intepret much out of a childs perspective with a very lazy mom)
from what i´ve read your relationship might be ducked entirely and that seeking professional help likely is the best idea.
and if the relationship going to break you could still co parenting or even life together as roommates but not be in a romantical relationship
again sorry that i brought up some sad stuff and i hope you still have a nice time together with your kid ^^
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It ain’t for you
Yeha, I think that was the joke.
Of course it’s not for me. The lingerie is for her!
She just needs to lose 5 more lbs!
It’s not for her.
Be the french maid you were always meant to be.
Le bonheur n’est pas quelque chose de prêt à l’emploi. Il vient de vos propres actions!
Buy a men’s thong and make sure she finds out about it. Strongly hint that you will use it for the next sexy time. If that doesn’t prompt her to wear hers, at least you get to wear a thong.
I don’t really like how it parts my hair in half
I think shaving or trimming short is required to pull off a thong
Spoiler alert: she didn’t buy it for you to see…
Shit, at least yours buys linerie, mine just buys granma panties 😒.
litterally me. To lazy to decide. And i may start buying man underwear because my mom and a roommate are booth saying that it is more comfortable
The amusing thing here is that since coming out, I find panties to be way more comfortable than any of my boxers…
I’ve been wearing men’s boxer briefs for years and never looked back. One of us! One of us!
It is more comfortable… not that I’d know the difference 👀.
when you are male i guess female underwear is very uncomfortable because they should be like a tighter “misformed” version of tight male underwear
Yep, actually, have worn female underwear from a friend (we were at a festival, I forgot all of my underwear at home, so I had to handwash the only pair I had and then dry them on the tent in the sun… meanwhile, wearing her panties 😂), so yeah, I know they can be uncomortable… I just kept switching my dick and balls from left to right, had no idea where to place them, they kept comming out from the sides, people laughed 😂 (most knew I was wearing women’s underwear).
My wife has taken to stealing my Jockey boxer briefs…so angry… they’re my spanks not hers.
Plot twist - she already used the bought lingery 😉
That’s the joke
Yeah, though it would help the person I replied to.
Oh, i see. Sorry dude
No she didn’t… I wish she did though.
Most sexy lingerie is very uncomfortable to wear and super expensive. If it’s only for sexy time, it might not be worth it for her. If it really bothers you, talk to her but please accept it if she doesn’t want to. Some women don’t feel comfortable in lingerie and that kind of defeats the purpose as well.
Oh please, she couldn’t do it not once, not one time, and we’ve been together for over 15 years 😒. She’s just lazy, I know it… she thinks if she can deepthroat that that’s all there is to it, just gobble it up, he’s a happy guy… having burgers every singled day will make you sick of them, no matter how much you like burgers.
She doesn’t even put in any effort any more, I don’t know why I even have sex with her… to be honest, I rarely feel like it, I just don’t feel arroused.
then maybe talk to her about trying new things and that repetitiveness is unsettling
maybe bring some ideas where she can decide at least part of it
maybe you are long enough together that you already did everything so you could refresh old stuff or you could buy the lingerie or toys and say that you would like to test them out
maybe she does not notice how much it annoys you and she may has less fun too so she only does the nessesary
and if worst comes: you could make an somewhat polygam relationship (with lots of communications) where you booth allow cheating from time to time, but that definetly needs your partners consent
Edit: because of the long time without sexy underwear and (i put words in your mouth that could be untrue) that you never asked makes her think it is not important
Edit2: brainless thought -> she may would like it too if you are in some sexy underwear
There was a lot of talking done from my side, it never ammounted to anything… she’s probably in menopause now (we’re not that old, I’m 38, she’s 39) cuz I haven’t seen her buy any pads in about a year.
She gets to decide everything anyhow, when where, how. We haven’t had sex in about a year now, since I fuckin’ gave up initiating anything after being rejected time after time. She seems fine with that… she hasn’t initiated anything thus far, and I just masturbate… which is getting kinda annoying to be honest… I can really see why people start cheating now.
Plus, she’s like 300 lbs now… yeah, she was always fat, but not obese. She knows it’s not healthy, we’ve hired nutricionists, spent god knows how much on them, she does the diet about a month and then just gives up “fuck, too many cucumbers, olives, whatever in this diet, I just can’t take it! it tastes like shit! i give up!” 😒. I’m just really at a point where I don’t even give AF. I just take care of our kid (cuz she sure as hell can’t with that weight on her) and that’s about it.
We’ve used toys before, I am all up for that, in fact, toys were my idea, but she pisses herself now verry often (like even when sitting or coughing) and she blames the toys (they are large, not giant, but larger than what a normal penis would look like) for her pissing on herself (it’s the weight… she knows it, and I do as well, but she won’t admit it 😒), so, toys are a no go for about 2 years now.
I can tell she has less fun, she just goes through the motions. Last time that happened (us having sex) was about a year ago. When I noticed that, I said to myself, this is the last fucking time, this shit is not what I signed up for! Great head does not compensate for having a living corpse in bed and having to use lubricants to get you wet! Fuck this!
I have talked to her about this, she either denies it completely or admits a small portion of it, and then blames me for not getting her in the mood… what in the AF am I supposed to do, I have litelarly tried everything there is, scented candles, weed, loooong foreplays, music, dinner before it all, combos of all of the above and other things as well… I just gave up, I don’t have the strength or the energy on top of everything else (work, taking care of the kid, taking care of the household, cuz she doesn’t do shit around the appartment, except cook from time to time, I do everything else - vacuum, clean bathroom/toalets, fix shit, fix the car, rearange things if needed, etc.)… I just can’t, I worn out 😞.
About the last part, I have no objection to wearing sexy underwear, but she has to say that… I can’t pull every word out of her mouth with pliers.
then sorry for my comment. I did not see how much you already done and how irresponsible she is at least to raising her child what i think is the bare minimum contribution to a relationship. (there i intepret much out of a childs perspective with a very lazy mom)
from what i´ve read your relationship might be ducked entirely and that seeking professional help likely is the best idea.
and if the relationship going to break you could still co parenting or even life together as roommates but not be in a romantical relationship
again sorry that i brought up some sad stuff and i hope you still have a nice time together with your kid ^^
two attempts at spelling lingerie, both failed.
The G is silent 😉.
Thanks for correction
Can u get pregante when wearing lingyr??!
My Luigi board says no.
Pregernante?
Truly a Reddit moment.
Wife bad and femoids cheat more… Am I right bois🤣🤣
I’m in the moomoo pajama phase…. So there’s that. I got lingerie but once.
So who’s gonna tell this poor soul?
They say he’s still waiting to this day
What if she’s buying it as a motivation for weight loss or improving her figure? Or haven’t decided to wear it yet cause she’s self conscious?
All I’m saying is to communicate.
Ah yes, the optimist
That’s not optimism. That’s just pointing out that women are people because lots of terminally online people seem to forget that.