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Not necessarily. Mental health issues are consistent. They can come and go. However, children when growing up as teenagers get different mental health complications - maybe from their surroundings or hormones or both. I have seen plenty of times that teenagers try and use transitioning as a way to cope. Maybe they are struggling with identity or sexuality when going through puberty. Maybe they are neurodivergent and feel like they don’t fit in. Maybe they are looking for an identity or a community. Maybe they just have an illusion that changing their gender could solve their problems.
There appears to be an escalator which we do NOT want to encourage. Whenever an adult or therapist enters the picture to ask them “are you sure you are a boy/girl inside, or is something else going on”, there’s a chance they may get shut down as “transphobic” which we don’t want happening. Then there’s a community which may further encourage it.
Some people I’ve grown up with that identified as trans ended up dropping the identity as an adult, later saying that the real reason was because she didn’t want to be a girl because she felt girls were weak and she wasn’t like that. Then again, there’s somebody else who still identifies as transgender. But their dysphoria appears to be waning a bit. I’ll still support them as my friend regardless.
When I was younger, I questioned my own gender identity. I had a discord friend group and I suggested that I might be non binary. This friend group was constantly making fun of and mocking “cis straight men” and I didn’t want to be one of those. As soon as I questioned it, someone -a transgender person- just kept telling me “you are non binary.” Thankfully there was a falling out, I separated from that friend group and I am now more comfortable being the gender I was assigned at birth.
I’m also concerned that people grow into adults with these identities and a sunk cost fallacy may come in to play also.
I don’t want anyone to think I’m saying all transgender people are like this - I’m sure it’s a minority. But that transgender person later ended up getting into loli. They were abused horrifically when they were younger. So I don’t know if the abuse had anything to do with it or not.
We don’t want an escalator going- but we don’t want to breed hatred. It’s a tricky situation and people keep trying to make it black and white on both sides.
Teenagers like identities and labels. I saw my friends back then behave with pronouns, gender identity and sexuality the same way that people were behaving with choosing religious denominations, vexillology and heraldry communities making flags and arms for themselves (the latter two are more healthy than the rest tbh). People also obsess over star signs and mbti types. We just seem to like labels.
We shouldn’t be giving people life altering medical treatment because of these thoughts. I think we should also try loving people and telling them that they’re valid just the way they are first, before trying to encourage their belief that they need to change.
Where are you drawing the line on “transphobes”? You are implying someone is transphobic for suggesting you should get therapy first before getting procedures done.
I’d draw the line at somebody wishing harm on somebody else simply Because they’re trans. But I don’t think someone should be censored if they are skeptical of the whole transgender thing, as long as they do so in a way that is sensitive and respectful to those dealing with gender dysphoria.
I also got banned from political memes for “racism” for posting that satirical meme with the USA presidents where several are labelled “protestant” and are unable to ban abortion until it gets to biden who’s labelled “Catholic” and says something like “banned it in first term (or four years)”
I think the reason they labelled it as “racism” was because Obama was listed as “Muslim” or something, which is probably because it was a conspiracy theory. Even though that meme was clearly satire and parodying… I don’t even know who, Catholic grannies? I didn’t even notice that part though as I just skimmed it because it came to mind because of the discussion on hand
Edit: Here’s the meme, hopefully mods don’t ban me for “racism” again
Feddit.UK isn’t necessarily leftist, just “don’t be a jerk”
The only one feddit.uk is defederated from lmao
Eh, it’ll probably just bounce back tbh. With something this big, lemmy.ml can probably convince other fedi admins to migrate everyone’s subscriptions over
I’ve seen quite a few on asklemmy